This is my second wedding. My first marriage sunk like the Titanic with no life boats. The marriage itself was a train wreck, and I spent most of it trying to save it. It was 11 exhausting years, and I felt like I had survived war after I was finally out. I got married at 18 to a "man" that said all the right things, but never ever did any of the right things. When he left the second time I found out I was pregnant with our fifth child two weeks later. I spent the pregnancy healing. I cut off all contact with the ex, and only allowed him to communicate through letters. I fixed where I was broken, and became a whole person again. My FI had a similar experience. He went through hell, but it was twice for him. The first ex was a beast, and the second was worse.
My first wedding was my MIL's wedding. She picked everything. The date, the venue, the food, the guests...ect, ect, ect. She even called my mother and wanted a check to go buy me a wedding dress without me even being there.
My FI was married twice at town hall. The first time his ex wouldn't even allow his mother to go.
We are both looking forward to planning a wedding. He is excited for so many different reasons. He wants to see me in a white dress, to marry in our church. I just opened a party planning business, so for me this is my favorite thing to do! I want to plan the party, and be excited about all the little details.
So here's the thing. I can't help but feel like people are going to have negative opinions of us having a big wedding. I'm not stupid, I've heard the mumbles. I want to ignore it, and not let it bug me but in all honesty it does bug me. We found each other, and are so happy. I would think the people who love us, or are supposed to love us would see that and want to celebrate. I want to celebrate. I want to stand on a mountain top and dance like crazy while singing I am so stinking blessed. I'm pretty sure I can keep my mouth shut, but if someone says anything negative in front of my kids I may lose it. When we got engaged my older daughters told us that it was the best vacation ever, because we are "officially" a family now. They are as excited as I am to plan the big day.
Anyone else dealing with the second wedding mumbles?