Good Morning Ladies!
I need some help handling my mother's expectations and demands. My wonderful FI proposed to me just a week ago on Sunday on the beach. He did all the "proper" steps in speaking with my Dad (who couldn't keep this secret to himself and spilled the beans to Mom) before he proposed. I called them shortly after the proposal and they seemed so happy for us.
I call my mom every day. On my regular daily Monday call, she began talking about our wedding. She says really hurtful things to me about what is supposed to be a celebration. "You're not planning on wearing a wedding dress, are you? That's just inappropriate. You should get a nice dress from a department store that you could wear to church again. And invitations......we should just go to WM and get those invitations where you fill in the blanks. I can't believe you want to go to a printer to have them made."
All of these words came less than 24 hours into being engaged. My father isn't much better. He's mad that we are planning on getting married before my bro and his FI are. (They are having a HUGE wedding and will have been engaged for 15 months before getting married. We are older, second time around and want to have a very small, intimate ceremony. We really don't feel the need for a long engagement.)
She makes snide, sarcastic comments that really hurt. My FI tells me that I have to talk to her, but she is the type of person who it won't make a difference. It will just make her very angry and the situation worse. I am actually going dress shopping (at a bridal salon) without her because I just don't want to hear all the comments about being a second bride and wanting a wedding dress. Why shouldn't I want to look like a bride for the love of my life?
Thanks for listening. Any advice is welcome!