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Renewing Vows

sweetcheeks2011sweetcheeks2011
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My husband and I are planning to renew our vows on our 5th anniversary--we originally got married in Vegas and came home and had a casual party--this time areound we are going all out---I purchased a gown very close to the one I have in Vegas--we rented a very nice reception hall--DJ--flowers--probably a photographer---is this going tofar---are our family and friends ging to think this is stupid???--are we nuts???
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary Name Dropper 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    Vow renewals are a great way to celebrate your committment to one another.  Often times the first five years can be quite trying and the vow renewal is a way to express that through it all you would still want to be married to your honey and would do it all over again. 

    It's a celebration of love I don't believe there is a wrong way to do it... Congratulations on making the five year mark and here's hoping that you make another five and another and so on!
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  • pamila51510pamila51510
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    edited December 2011
    If it is what you want do it and enjoy every moment!
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  • cwcottagecwcottage member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto. Do what YOU want and have a blast!
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011

    Not to be Debbie Downer, but your question is if your family and friends will think this is stupid.  First of all, none of us know your family and friends.  So we cannot answer that.  Only you can.


    But...IF I were who you were inviting, I would question this choice. I think renewing vows is lovely.  But at 5 years, to hold  a renewal with all the fixings of a wedding- I would question it.  If it were 25 years, no issue.  But at 5 - looks like a gift grab to me.

    My personal opinion is that if you chose to get married by having a Vegas wedding with a casual party after- that is what you chose. Just because 5 years later you regret that choice and want to do the whole shebang doesn't obligate ME to condone it, attend it or spend money on a gift.  IF there were complicating circumstances (by that I mean deployment, illness, family tragedy) that precluded the celebration you desired  from occuring 5 years ago, I might change my mind.  Otherwise, I would give it a hard side eye.  Just MY opinion.  If you want the opinion of YOUR family and friends, ask them, and assure them that you want their honest answers. ~Donna

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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
    Seventh Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    I'm with Right1--although, as she also stated, we're not your friends and family. I would probably not attend, UNLESS there were mitigating circumstances, such as one of the couple had been gravely ill and is now ill, one had been deployed as a military member and the low-key wedding was a as a result of that, etc.  However, just for a do-over, because now you feel like you missed out on a bigger party, uh, no. 
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  • isis842000isis842000 member
    Sixth Anniversary 10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My husband and I are renewing are vows on 8/6/11 after 11 years. We have faced some major trails over the ast few years this ceremony is our new beginning. We elope and we too are going all out and having the ceremony we could not afford before.
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  • ahbaumahbaum member
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    edited December 2011
    My husband and I are renewing our vows for our 5 year anniversary as well.

    We couldn't have a wedding at the time we were married and agreed we would do it sometime down the road.

    We're not going to register, and we're certainly not expecting gifts (not that the OP is), but we want a chance to celebrate our commitment to each other with our friends and family.  Something we didn't get to do 4 years ago.

    So if the OP wants a vow renewal at 5 years, why not?  Regardless, it's a celebration of love.  Isn't that all that matters?
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