Ok so here's the dilema. I was married once before to my daughters father, yet our marriage wasn't work rubbing two pennies together. So at any rate, now that my finace and I are getting married, we are looking at paying our own tab. My parents feel that they spent the money on my first.. which I understand. Here comes the hard part.. His parents feel my parents should be contributing. .but not only that.. they also feel that we should have the ceremony in st louis .. 4 hrs from here because its not fair to ask his family to travel... but mine should because there are 10 less of us..... My mom feels that my fi and i should not have a big wedding at all. She thinks since its my second wedding we should go to the jop.. any suggestions?