Is it proper to go to a 2nd wedding ceremony uninvited

Annemariels

My husband is aquainted with a man who is getting married for the second time. We were not invited to the wedding but my husband wants us to go to the ceremony. I do not know the man at all and always believed 2nd weddings were more intimate with close family and friends present. Would it be proper to go?

mybooboos

IMO - I'd tell him to go by himself. If there's embarassment, let it be focused on him only. 
1- yes, 2nd weddings are usually more intimate and family centric
2 - this friend understands that you live 2 hours away, and still invites him to a 20 minute ceremony, but not the reception? It's either rude of his friend, or fishy.
3 - I don't think "standing out" makes a difference.  The bigger issue is being a "wedding crasher". 
4 - if the friend thought enough of him to want him to share in this special day, then he should have sent him an invitation.  It doesn't sound that casual of an event, otherwise he'd be invited to the reception as well.

Just my two cents...

right1thistime

Wedding ceremonies held in faith communities are often open to the congregation - not that most people would choose to go uninvited. 

However...I had to ask myself - why would a woman who is already married - with a fake date in her profile,  create a Knot profile for the sole purpose of asking this question (your only board post)?

And furthermore, the far greater question --is why would you come to a second wedding board and talk about your husband's negative qualities so blatantly? 

The only logical answer I could come up with is troll.  DNFTT

Annemariels

First of all, I have no idea what a troll is, but I do know I've never been called one before. And I have no idea what DNFTT means.

I quickly set up the account when I saw a forum about second weddings because I assumed I could get good etiquette advice for my situation. I did not mean to offend you or anyone else and apologize if my post was not appropriate.

Thank you to those who gave me their opinion - it was a big help. I hope no unwanted guests show up at your weddings!

I wish you all the best!
 

thealphabride

Ann, the moderator gave you some good advice. Don't go.

Annemariels

Thank you alphabride.

BTW, I just figured out how to view the *fake date*,1/1/0001, in my profile and don't remember writing that or any wedding dates when I created my account. I am not very computer savy and was in a hurry when I created the account. I did not intend to mislead anyone.

rapunnzzll

I don't think it's appropriate to go any wedding without a proper invitation.  Verbal inviations to weddings don't count if you ask me.

Congratulations of your almost 30 years.  Hopefully you truly are happy and not just settling.

Annemariels

Geesh "right1thistime", why are you picking on me? I don't get it and don't like it. Are you a bully in your personal life too?

Does anyone know how I can cancel my account at the knot? I feel very uncomfortable here. Most of you have been kind and I thank you for your hospitality, but I really don't like being the target of "right1thistime's" hostility. It's baffling me. I honestly don't know what I did to provoke her.

If you can tell me how to cancel my account I would appreciate it so much. 

Annemariels

I figured out how to cancel my account. Send an email to membersupport@theknot.com and put "Delete my membership" in the subject line. It takes up to 72 loooong hours for it to be canceled.

I will now take my ball and go home...

SeptemberFall2011

If you weren't invited you don't go.

csousa1

In Response to Is it proper to go to a 2nd wedding ceremony uninvited:

(hubby is a manipulator and tells lies and stretches the truth all the time to get his way so I don't know it's true) Posted by Annemariels

marital bliss?


right1thistime, do us all a favor and whoever you are mad at, direct some of that anger towards them instead of a stranger asking for advice...