Our wedding is going to be a small 20 person beach wedding anyway, but after a tiff I had with my mom, and the fact that my dad is a selfish a$$hole, we're thinking that we're just going to go do it by ourselves. We'll save $700 on food, and the headache of trying to make everyone happy and coordinate everyone.
The only problem with that is his kids. If there's no one at the wedding, there's no one to take them so we can have a honeymoon. I'm not sure how he'd feel about not having them there, even though it would save us another $1k on their airfare. I don't think that part hit him when we briefly discussed it. I guess, stay tuned to see the outcome.
They didn't have you where I come from...never knew the best was yet to come...