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Shhhh...don't tell...but we're thinking of eloping

Our wedding is going to be a small 20 person beach wedding anyway, but after a tiff I had with my mom, and the fact that my dad is a selfish a$$hole, we're thinking that we're just going to go do it by ourselves. We'll save $700 on food, and the headache of trying to make everyone happy and coordinate everyone.

The only problem with that is his kids. If there's no one at the wedding, there's no one to take them so we can have a honeymoon. I'm not sure how he'd feel about not having them there, even though it would save us another $1k on their airfare. I don't think that part hit him when we briefly discussed it. I guess, stay tuned to see the outcome.
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Re: Shhhh...don't tell...but we're thinking of eloping

  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011

    *staying tuned*

  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    We did the planned elopement thing--I have a (now) 25 year old daughter.  I spoke with her about it before I did it, as well as with my sisters.  My one sister wanted me to have a big wedding and reception.  She even offered to pay for it, and plan it.  I was grateful that she was being so generous, but I explained that the party she was describing would be HER wedding and reception, not mine.

    I was so glad I stuck to my guns and did it privately.  It was amazing, and so much more meaningful than the wedding I had in 1985 that was medium sized. 

    Just think about how romantic it could be, and how much you can say to one another--we would NEVER have had the ceremony we did with people watching. 
    Keep us posted--whatever you decide, it will be fine, and at the end of the day, you'll be married to a great guy!
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_shhhhdont-tellbut-were-thinking-of-eloping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:8bed291b-288b-4b06-a9fc-4a9af155fe8bPost:f939ad28-9a3a-407d-b879-3d876dfb67d7">Shhhh...don't tell...but we're thinking of eloping</a>:
    [QUOTE]Our wedding is going to be a small 20 person beach wedding anyway, but after a tiff I had with my mom, and the fact that my dad is a selfish a$$hole, we're thinking that we're just going to go do it by ourselves. We'll save $700 on food, and the headache of trying to make everyone happy and coordinate everyone. The only problem with that is his kids. If there's no one at the wedding, there's no one to take them so we can have a honeymoon. I'm not sure how he'd feel about not having them there, even though it would save us another $1k on their airfare. I don't think that part hit him when we briefly discussed it. I guess, stay tuned to see the outcome.
    Posted by tropical.dreams[/QUOTE]

    Can you honeymoon later, when the children are not with you?
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  • edited December 2011
    It would actually be financially counterproductive to try to honeymoon later without the kids, because we're honeymooning in the same place as we're getting married, and it would cost double. Plus, (hopefully) after the wedding I'll have a job in the new state and won't be able to take vacation anyway. What we're trying to do is get married, honeymoon, and get me moved 1300 miles, all in just a few weeks.

    I think we're going to talk more about it this weekend when I see him, so hopefully we'll figure something out.
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    Keep us posted!! Logisitics can be a bear.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_shhhhdont-tellbut-were-thinking-of-eloping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:8bed291b-288b-4b06-a9fc-4a9af155fe8bPost:231a5720-2bb7-4388-a65b-dbeee1bde6f6">Re: Shhhh...don't tell...but we're thinking of eloping</a>:
    [QUOTE]Keep us posted!! Logisitics can be a bear.
    Posted by MikesAngie[/QUOTE]

    Seriously! Trying to coordinate me finding a job with the wedding and honeymoon and moving halfway across the country and renting out my house, in addition to the small freaking fortune we spend on airline tickets is enough to make me a drunk.
    They didn't have you where I come from...never knew the best was yet to come...
  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    edited December 2011
    Hope everything works out for you :)
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