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Differing ideas about hyphenating

My children have my maiden name (I was never married to their father).  I want to hyphenate my name.  I'm just wondering did you hyphenate, take his name or keep your maiden name.

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Re: Differing ideas about hyphenating

  • edited December 2011
    I write this as a "I will take his name" and I didn't mind when I was a kid and my mom took my stepdad's last name.  
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  • edited December 2011
    If I had your situation, I would hyphenate.  My children have my exhusband's name, so I guess they're just going to have to understand.
  • blush64blush64 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am keeping my name. My kids already have a hyphenated name and when we have kids toghether they will have hyphenated names as well.

    I just don't want to take his name. In social situations I won't be upset if people call me by his name but I will not be changing it.
  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    I haven't started the process yet, but I do plan on taking my DH's name.  I don't have children and the furbabies already have his last name at the Vet's.
  • coralee715coralee715 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am taking his name.  My children have their dad (my ex hubbies) last name and when we divorced I took my maiden name back.  I talked to my kids about taking my maiden name back after the divorce (kids were 11 & 13 at the time) and they said to take it back.  They also are fine with me taking a new name.  I'm still mom no matter what my last name is.
  • edited December 2011
    i hyphenated and wished i hadn't...but i don't have kids.  in your case, i would hyphenate w/your maiden name first, then his name.  if you have kids together, i'd give them his last name. 
  • edited December 2011
    I will be taking his name.  My son (5 yrs. old) has his father's last name (who is deceased).  Eventually my soon to be hubby will adopt him and my son will have his last name also.  I have two grown stepsons who will carry on my deceased husband's name, so I won't be ending that by changing my son's last name.  It is important to me that I have my hubby's last name, and that my son does too.
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  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    I did not change my name for either my first or second marriage.
  • edited December 2011

    I plan to hyphenate my last name for the same reason.  I'm also in my 30s and I don't think I should have to completely give up my last name because I'm getting married.  It's who I've been for the last 30+ years.

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