second time bride - invitation wording

afeith6658

I apologize if this has been asked already...I hope I have the right board.

When I got divorced I kept my married name.  Now that I'm getting married for the second time, I'm not sure how to word the invitation.  Is it ok to include my legal married name on the invitation?

I'd rather not take the "First Name Middle name" route for two reasons.  1) I hate my middle name.  2) I have a full name, I'd like to use it.  My first wedding invitation was the first name middle name with the grooms first name middle name last name...

Would this be an insult to my FI?

right1thistime

I'm guessing your fi introduces you as "a. feith"  not as "a. middlenameIhate".  It is your name, even if it came from your xH. 

So it is fine to word the invite as A.Feith and F.I. Honey request the honour of your presence as they pledge their eternal love and smushyfacedness...
~Donna

2dBride

Given that your friends now know you by your first married name, I think using it on the invitations is a very good idea.  You don't want people looking at the invitations and saying, "A Who?"

ichellemay1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_second-time-bride-invitation-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:9846f517-61a1-4f01-bf9a-8b791840b73cPost:5fa6c6bc-c4ef-4183-8197-2734aaf576fe">Re: second time bride - invitation wording</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm guessing your fi introduces you as "a. feith"  not as "a. middlenameIhate".  It is your name, even if it came from your xH.  So it is fine to word the invite as A.Feith and F.I. Honey request the honour of your presence as <strong>they pledge their eternal love and smushyfacedness</strong>... ~Donna
Posted by right1thistime[/QUOTE]

This gave me a smile at work (quite a feat!).  Thanks!

MidwestIrishBridea

Your FI knows you have your xH's last name.  Your friends and family know you have your xH's last name.... no matter where it comes from, you kept that as your name and it's now how you're known.  Therefore, I would just used your first and last legal name and be happy to know that it's going to change soon!

lindaloulubbock

I used my first married name, because that is the name that most people knew.

kevinth

some common situations and the appropriate wedding invitation wording for each. Keep in mind that this is the formal traditional language. Modern couples may choose to add opening statements such as "With Joy in Their Hearts," or may choose to change the traditional "request the honor of your presence at the marriage" to something like "invite you to be a special part of the wedding.If some one wants the example of the invitation wording areBrides parents are divorced:
either
Issued by the parent who raised her
parent name
requests the honor of your presence
at the wedding of her daughter
daughter name
etc.