Ladies, I know I have been a huge PITA with regard to the whole gown thing and today I'm truly regretting signing up for the asinine contest that now I'm being punished for (okay probably not really but it feels like it). I'm sure you all were relieved when I ordered my gown and thought that would be the last of it, hahaha apparenty the "group" has other ideas.
I received an email from Tosca that she received confirmation that the gown will be shipped directly to me in January. Sure it saves me a long commute to pick it up, but it also takes away any safety net. The "group" has been so forthcoming in all matters (NOT) and has done everything they agreed to (NOT) I shouldn't be worried right? I'm terrified that the dress will not be as ordered and will cost me a fortune in alterations and in January there will be little I can do about it. I voiced this concern to my FI and he said that it's too late to quit now because the gown has been ordered. My thought was they haven't even cut the fabric yet...
A little bit of a back story, the 18th I was to try on 3 of the "original designer" gowns and 3 "new designer" gowns - the "group" sent 2 that's it, 1 of the "original designer" and 1 best seller of the "new designer" the rest of the gowns that I tried on were in Tosca's inventory already. No one mentioned this to me before I made the 2 hour drive - so I feel like I had been lied to since they were to have sent what I requested. This after I had been assured by the "group" I would have both designers to choose from and that my agreement didn't need to be changed because they hadn't really changed "designers" on me. Yes they did, and they forced me to select the "new designer" by only having one gown present for the "original designer".
Also when we ordered the gown Tosca wasn't so sure they would process the order as written and voiced that to me because the "group" doesn't always do what is asked. But she would inspect the gown when it came in and let me know what to expect, another reason I'm terrified. So it could come in a size larger because of my measurements (bust is dictating size, dang tatas), with the bow, no additional satin covered buttons and the hem attached and possibly the wrong color (all of which Tosca was concerned about), so you see my concerns are justified.
*sigh* Had I known this was going to be the case with this "group" I would have delete their contest email and application and kept looking... This is going to make me nuts and it shouldn't really... Why can't this be as easy as my FI's tuxedo?
Every time I get happy mojo to start on the rest of my DIY projects and feel like it's all going to work out this "group" zaps me with their bs. I'm about ready to say @#%! it, and tell them to delete all my posts and shove the proposed gown as far as they can get it... Of course my dear FI would like me to just remain Miss Resilient Bride and finish this thing with the "group". (This is one of the many reasons I walk 2 miles a day to keep my stress levels down...it's also a great way to get toned and in shape).
Is it too late to quit? I don't know... FI says it is because the gown is ordered and the moms love it as did my Matron OH...but is it really worth the stress? (I loved the gown too...but *sigh* this part of the experience makes being either in a tee shirt and jeans or naked very appealing)
Thank you for letting me express my fears and frustration; and I would like to say this will be the last of this but really in January you might be able to hear either my sigh of relief or my scream when the gown arrives.