Hi! Im new here (again), and its nice to find people in my same shoes as far as second marriages are concerned.
Admittedly, I was too young and dumb the first time I got married. What I did get was my 2 beautiful daughters. My Fiance also has 2 kids and he was with his exwife for a total of 18 years, (12 married years). We both come from completely different backgrounds, and he is considerably older than I am.
Im 25, FI is 40 (almost 41). His family is fantastic and very accepting, but Im still scared that his mom is skeptical of me. I dont know if its my age, or the fact that I had both of my daughters out of wedlock, before I married my ex. I dont know. She is very sweet to me, and my kids. But Im still scared of my FMIL! She is a great woman, accomplish, educated, sweet as pie, but SCARY! Im intimidated.
Every time I mention our weddin (we have been together for a year, the wedding is in 2 years), she shrugs it off. I get the impression that she doesnt think its going to happen, or that Im "young, dumb, and in love"
How do I gain confidence? What can I do to tell myself "its ok to breath"? I adore my FMIL, shes very inspirational to me. Im just still nervous about her, and how I will fit into my new family.
-Chestie.