Ok, so I know the rule is pretty much "do what you want and can afford", but I wondered from some of you on the board how far out are you inviting in your families? My family is huge and the list gets large quickly. My fiance can invite much more broadly in his family because there are fewer of them, does this matter? (for example, if he asks his aunts and uncles this is 3 couples, if I do it is 10 couples).
I also just don't want to offend anybody, but I feel like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. If I don't, some people might be offended not to get an invite. If I do, some who don't want to come (or don't think a second wedding is appropriate) would feel obligated to attend. I'm in a no-win here!
If only there was a way to invite those who would want to be invited and not to invite those who don't!