Has anyone shared "It's Normal" with FI?

nmeirose

Hi everyone, I am mostly a lurker but get a lot of help reading your posts- thank you.  I posted once about problems with ex-h, and got some great advice.

I am still struggling with a lot of emotion though, and 'It's Normal" is such a godsend.  I am thinking of sharing it w FI so he can understand why I get so upset sometimes- I tell him and try to explain, but since he has never been married before, he is always suprised (although understanding) of how I am feeling.  I just think that post just is so clear and relatable, and would show him that I am not the only second bride feeling that way.

Has anyone shared it with their FI, and what was their reaction?  The only thing holding me back is that he might think I am a loser who needs a message board post to make me feel better- but in my heart I know that if he would think that, I would not be marrying him.    Just curious if anyone has done it.

Thanks so much,
Noelle

debbiem56

I shared it with him, only slightly modified to reflect our situation.   He understood and said that he had some of the same feelings and appreciated that I shared it with him.

lindaloulubbock

I sent it to my FI a few months ago, too.  I struggled with explaining to him why I was so conflicted about our wedding (but not our marriage), and it helped me to explain.

He's uber-supportive and a computer geek, too, so it wasn't that strange to him that I got a lot of comfort from a message board post.

mfeo24

I've shared comments of "I read that we're not the only second wedding having this issue," but maybe it's time to share the whole list.  He would appreciate some explaination of my crazies and upsets.

nmeirose

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[QUOTE]I've shared comments of "I read that we're not the only second wedding having this issue," but maybe it's time to share the whole list.  He would appreciate some explaination of my crazies and upsets.
Posted by mfeo24[/QUOTE]

I've been doing this same thing (sharing comments referring to it), but I am going to send him the entire thing tonight for the same reason you say!

Lisa50

I just did.  He thinks it's pretty good to have something like that around ...