Not sure if someone already asked this question, I looked through some old posts and didn't see it.
Did you have a hard time deciding what you wanted the second time around? This is his second, and techinically my third (I married my first husband twice - so much for not making the same mistake twice...).
We've been planning a small, family and close friend only ceremony/reception in our backyard and having one of our friends officiate. I didn't want anything big, I guess I'm kind of feeling that whole "you already had your 'big wedding' and it didn't last" pressure, even though no one has said it. (My first wedding was the big "pretty princess day".) But now I'm wondering if I even want that. Not that I want to run off to Vegas, but a destination wedding with just me and him is sounding appealing.
Problem is, I feel like we should have something family-friendly because he has two sons. We have them half the time, he is an amazing father and they are great kids. They're 5 and 8, and he's wondering how much any of this even means to them. They just want me as their stepmom, they don't really care how it happens (or at least that's what FI is thinking).
I know no one can decide this for me, and he said he's open to discussing any and all alternatives, so I guess my question really is - did you change your mind on wedding plans and if so, how many times. We have 11 months and I really see this being something I go back and forth on a couple of times.