Invitations

SarahA2b

This is my second wedding and I am getting married at the end of the month.  My parents have not been supportive until a few days ago.  Naturally I sent out invitations a month ago.  Since my mother was not talking about the wedding, and I am paying for it, I made the invitation list without her input.  So today she says one of her friends feels bad that I didn't invite her.  Apparently I invited her to my last wedding like in 2004 and she sent a gift, but I don't really remember.  Even now I don't feel like inviting her.  Does etiquette say I have to invite her since I invited her last time?  In my opinion my mother should have asked who was invited and not talked about it with those who weren't invited. 
Opinions?

Lisa50

My opinion is that etiquette does not direct you invite someone to your wedding simply because that person was invited to your first wedding. 

Since your mother decided to step in the middle of this, you can nicely send her back with a message that you're very sorry but budget, guest list, etc., are all signed, sealed and delivered (so to speak).  If the person had decided to approach you on her own (like a grown up), then I might (might) have a different opinion.

Have a wonderful wedding!

xobride

I agree.  If you're footing the entire bill, then the guest list is up to you and inviting someone you barely even remember is in no way rude.