shower question

pennylp

How do you all feel about showers? I HATE the idea!  - not my first rodeo. According to what I have found on the internet, showers are for lingere and items for a new household. I don't need either.
His sister in law wants to give me a "tea" instead of a shower - but in my world, it's all the same.
I have voiced my thoughts and they might take me to lunch instead.
Just wondering what you all think about it all.

naynay1982

I personally love showers. If someone is gracious anough to offer to throw me one, I don't care what etiquette says, I will accept and be excited. And it's not because of the gifts. It's because I love getting all of my female friends and family members together to talk girl stuff. I don't get many chances to do that. And I love the food.

But obviously they are not for everyone. If you don't want one, then you don't want one. It's your choice. Unless of course they do a surprise party (which I hate) then you have no choice.

belletop

I also don't like the idea.  I feel uncomfortable with the attention and accepting gifts (sometimes from practically strangers).  We also have a pretty much completely furnished house.  FI is excited about it all though so I will go along with it.

JenniferC2010

I didn't have a shower for my first wedding so when someone offered this time around I couldn't say no. I want the experience at least once. And as far as gifts, there are always thing I could use an upgrade on.

MikesAngie

If someone offered to put together any event that celebrates our upcoming wedding in any way I'm in!  I doubt they will and I will not ask but why should this engagement, wedding and marriage be any less celebrated just because it's not a first?  This is definitely the perfect relationship, love and man for me and I think that is cause for celebrating! 

It bears repeating, if it's not your thing and you don't want it then make your wishes known and hope they don't just throw a "surpise!" something or other for you.

carolinagal78

I like to go to showers and I would hope someone would have one for me. My MOH has already mentioned she wants to throw me a speciality shower/ This isnt my first rodeo either. Its my second but me and my ex split over 5yrs ago. We were married for 6 so thats been over 11yrs now. All my stuff is old and crusty now.

It just depends on the person I guess. If you dont feel comfortable then kindly decline. I think if someone wants to throw for you it is a nice gesture and I dont think it would hurt. Good luck!

AbbeyS2011

My first wedding was a spur of the moment thing - thrown together in 2 days, a thousand miles from home,friends and family.  No showers, no celebrations, no nothing.  I personally would love a shower this time around. 

It depends on the bride, and I hope they will respect your wishes and take you to lunch and maybe a spa treatment, like a mani/pedi. 

kimp67

One of my BMs just the other day asked if I wanted one.  I don't.  I see nothing wrong with brides-to-be having them, I just really don't want one & we don't really need anything.