Who should give me away?

jenybeen

Hi ladies.  I'm in a predicament trying to decide who should walk me down the aisle.  This is my second wedding.  At my first, my uncle (who raised me from 11-17) gave me away.  My father has been absent since I was a toddler.  I have a step-dad, too, and I lived with my mom and him from toddlerhood till I was 11 and was given to my aunt and uncle (the one who walked me down at my first wedding). 

So now I'm torn, it's 11 years after my first wedding.  I'm not very close to my uncle anymore, though I'm not close to my step-dad either.  My aunt expects me to choose my uncle, my mom expects me to choose my step-dad.  Some say to give my step-dad a shot since my uncle gave me away at my first wedding, but he's a mechanic and he doesn't clean up well.  :-/  Sorry if that's mean, but it's honest. 

SIGH!  What to do?  Suggestions?  Ideas? 

JostMarried

I walked down the isle just me, myslef and I. It was great...;-)

right1thistime

Ditto.  I entered my second marriage as a confident and independent woman, and walked myself down the aisle in part as a statement to that.  ~Donna

blush64

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[QUOTE]Hi ladies.  I'm in a predicament trying to decide who should walk me down the aisle.  This is my second wedding.  At my first, my uncle (who raised me from 11-17) gave me away.  My father has been absent since I was a toddler.  I have a step-dad, too, and I lived with my mom and him from toddlerhood till I was 11 and was given to my aunt and uncle (the one who walked me down at my first wedding).  So now I'm torn, it's 11 years after my first wedding.  I'm not very close to my uncle anymore, though I'm not close to my step-dad either.  My aunt expects me to choose my uncle, my mom expects me to choose my step-dad.  Some say to give my step-dad a shot since my uncle gave me away at my first wedding, but <strong>he's a mechanic and he doesn't clean up well</strong>.  :-/  Sorry if that's mean, but it's honest.  SIGH!  What to do?  Suggestions?  Ideas? 
Posted by jenybeen[/QUOTE]

That's superficial. If you want someone who just looks good why not hire a model or actor?

Walk yourself down the aisle or choose the person who you feel closest to right now.

EDIT You're step father can serously not clean himself? (shower and wear clean clothes)

soon to be mrs pham

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[QUOTE]I <strong>walked down the isle just me</strong>, myslef and I. It was great...;-)
Posted by JostMarried[/QUOTE]

<div>^this sounds like the best option you dont belong to anyone but yourself to have someone "give you away"  (ie you've been given away and you no longer belong to the one you were given to therefore belong to yourself)</div><div>the tradition of being given away starts from doweries being paid for the bride and the person there was giving away the women "property" to the  man who gets her. </div><div>
</div><div>however if it is important (as it is to my fi) i have my brother walking me down. i did think of four options</div><div>
</div><div>1 have both escort and when the giving away question is asked they bot say we do (instead of i do or her mother and i do)</div><div>
</div><div>2 have one walk you down and another give you away</div><div>
</div><div>3 have a third party walk you down but not give you away (as i am with my brother)</div><div>
</div><div>4. a more non traditional way.... having your mother or female relative do it</div>

2dBride

Well, my ex-husband volunteered to "give me away" at my second wedding.  But I'm not a fan of the tradition of giving away the bride.  NotFroofy and I walked down the aisle together.

avannatta1

Just a thought.. Do you have children.. If so did you consider. Since my dad refused to walk me down the eisle (I was 18) at my first wedding . I will be having my older sons walk me. (they are 16 & 18) I figure at this point I truly belong to them. The first time I got married I just walked myself

lindaloulubbock

I considered 2 options-

1. walking myself

2. having my children escort me.

My 4 year old son wanted to walk with me, but my daughter had her heart set on being a flower girl and throwing petals, so that's what we did.  

jenybeen

Superficial?  LOL, that's just me thinking of my very white dress and my very greasy stepdad!  He's just as open about his grease-monkeyness, doesn't sit on people's couches and stuff.  I'm sure he'd clean up as best as he could for a wedding, but I was just sayin'. 

I do have children.  My oldest son is 10, and I bet he'd love to walk me down.  I'll have to talk to him about it.  It's either that, or I'm going alone, I think.  Those seem to be the best options that shouldn't hurt anyone's feelings, too. 

Thanks girls!

debbiem56

My dad is deceased and my son is not totally supportive.  I am walking halfway down to where there is a break in the pews, so FI gets to see me approach him.  He will then join me and we walk to the altar together.

MikesAngie

My DH and I were both escorted by our moms there wasn't any giving anyone away...

It was beautiful and it included the moms in a very special and unique way.  Both of our dads are deceased...

Scarlet Starlet 31

I'm walking down the aisle halfway by myself, meeting FI in the middle and we're walking the second half together.  I don't feel the need to be escorted, but I liked the symbolism.

thealphabride

I had my son escort me down the aisle. If I did not have children, it would have been my mom. In fact, my mom wanted to walk me, but when I told her I will have Ben walk me she totally understood. Our father was absent from our lives and is now deceased. It was really special for me to have my son escort me.

He kept me from crying, went very slow, we talked, and stopped and hugged half way down the aisle.... and it was very touching when he shook his step father's hand and handed him my hand.....

ShellyBaxter11

Only you can give yourself away.... however you can have someone escort you down the aisle to give you support.  You can walk yourself (of course.) You can walk with your fiance.

Lisa50

I think either walking down the aisle by yourself or with your groom is the way to go.