Need Ideas to include stepchildren in the wedding

jordanlesliem

My honey and I have 5 kids in total...I already know how my daughter is going to be in the wedding and his son but I don't have any ideas for the 3 girls....there ages are 11, 14 and 16...how can I include them in the wedding? Any ideas would be helpful...Thanks 

Sloane99

Have you asked them what they would like to do, or how much participation they want? I'm not a big fan of any sort of children-inclusive vows or anything, but being attendants, doing a reading, a toast or something along those lines would be a great way to acknowledge their importance in your lives.

kikibella1210

i agree with Sloane - start by asking them what they would like to do or how they would like to be a part of it.  i wasn't going to have any other kids other then his & my kids in the wedding but by two nieces 7 & 8 really want to participate so i am making them honoree flower girls and i'll let them walk down the aisle with a few inexpensive flower bouquets.  i love it when a the kids want to be a part of something - i try to make room for them all if they want.

Sue-n-Kevin

I agree with the prior posters. Ask them first.

At this stage in our lives, family comes first, friends second. Even if your bridal party is uneven in numbers, it really doesn't matter. Junior bridesmaids don't need escorts, they can just be dressed up, in the wedding party, and take part that way.

Good luck.

deepcovejackie

I'm in agreement with the above posters.  The kids may already have an idea of what they would like to do.  My daughter has actually requested a sand ceremony, so we're doing that (for her really).  She gets a pretty dress and will stand up with us (along with my son) as our attendants.  We're only having the kids in the "wedding party".

littlepumpkin

He has three boys and I have two.  His three boys will be his best men, my two are walking down the isle with the flower girl.  I am not having any attendents...just me and him, five boys and a flower girl.  I say if you want to involve them, the sand ceremony is a good idea or having them each do part of a reading or even read something they each write. 

LesPaul

Agree w/ pps - ask them what role they want.  My daughters (16 and 18) and his daughter (16) and son (19) were our BMs/GM.  No family vows or unity ceremony (I'm not a fan of that stuff).  It was very nice, and everyone was included equally.  btw - no need to designate them as 'junior' BMs.  They would probably be honored to be part of the WP as BMs and GM without any other responsibilities. 

bruno811

My fiance and I also have 5 kids between us (mine are girl, 19, girl, 14, boy, 12) (his are boy, 12 & girl 9).  Instead of MOH and BM, we're going to have the two boys serve as best men, and the three girls will be the maids of honor.  That way, no one is left out or feels like their role is different, less than, or better than someone else's role.  We're having a destination wedding in Ireland which will double as a family vacation afterwards too.  The total expected guest list will be around 40, so its smallish, but having the kids in those roles is very meaningful for us.

jordanlesliem

thank all of all so much I do appreciate it so much we will have a family meeting and see were we are at....I will let ya'll know how it goes....Thanks again

leslie

nash74

I have no kids and my FI has one son and instead of a unity candle we are doing sand unity ceremony.  It is a way to include everyone.  I have attached a link 

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jordanlesliem

Thank you so much for the link I read it and it is something that we will be doing with the children instead of the candle