Need some advice please

Testerman1

Hello Ladies,My fiance and I just got engaged and well now we are trying to decide on when we would like to get married. First there are a couple of things that play in here. My fiances brother who is ( 28 ) they just got enageged after 6 long years of being togther. They are now decided they are getting married in October 1^st 2011.  Orginally I had thought I would like to get together in Feb – April  but then decided well that was really only like 7 months away and for what ever reason that really scared me.  So I was thinking to myself ok we can get married in October.  Wouldn’t it be weird if I got married In OCTOBER if his brother is getting married in october?  If october is out then what about november?Could I plan everything and have it ready by Feb- March? Is that really too soon? On the flip side of things, our pastor walks into my fiances office and they start chatting and pretty much tells him we are engaged and then he made the comment of how we should not wait until november to get married that we should not waite that long to get married. I am not sure what to do.  I am going to pick a wedding place that pretty much takes care of everything where all I have to do is choose colors and what I would like to do eat ect….. So The planning part can’t be really that hard can it? I am not sure at the moment here when to have it.Feb-March or October-November that is the question?

Valeriekay23

I think you should get married whenever YOU want. It's YOUR wedding so do what's right for you and your FI.   Your FI's brother possibly getting married in the same month isn't that big of a deal, it just means 2 parties!!   If you ended up going to one of those places where you just pick the colors and food, you could totally pull that off by March.

fallbride1109

Do whatever is best for you and your FI.  Don't let your pastor or anyone else influence your decision.  Of course, you will want to take your FBIL's wedding date into consideration but otherwise, do what you want.  6-8 months is plenty of time really if you get on the ball right away.  Plenty of brides have done it in less time than that.  On the flip side, there's nothing wrong with waiting.  If a fall wedding is what you want, do it.  I got engaged at Christmas and was married the following November.

When you start looking at venues, the availability of the venue you pick also may help you decide.  If you think about spring, make sure you avoid the weekends of Valentine's Day, Easter, Mother's Day, etc.

rcpm44

I agree with PP that you should get married when you and your FI decide is best for you two. Some things to think about:

Getting married and planning a wedding in 7 months is TOTALLY doable!

From what I've read it is polite to give families about 6 months in between weddings. So if your FI's brother is getting married in October, I think, it would be the classy thing to get married 6 months earlier (April 2010) or 6 months later (April 2012).

You really need to sit down with FI and talk about when you two want to get married! Good luck!

llc2011

I agree with the pp.  Planning a wedding can be completed in a short amount of time (my best friend is planning her wedding in 6 months, from out of state) and there is also nothing wrong with waiting if that's what you and your FI want (our engagement is about 2 years).

Good Luck!

MLandCJ

I agree with all of the PP. Just do what feels right.

beecjena08

I also think you should choose whatever date works for you guys. It's you day.

meghanttu08

When I worked at David's Bridal I helped brides who were going to be married in 4 months. One of my coworkers had a bride and she just got engaged. After the engagement, she found out her FI was sick and didn't have long to live. Her wedding was the next month! You can do it def. in 6 months. It helps if YOU know what YOU want and go after it!

DFWIndian

Personally, I know a lot of girls have come on this site before complaining about other people "taking" their thunder because a friend or family member is having a wedding the same month as their or near it. I would just be mindful of your FBIL's fiance. 
You can plan a wedding in almost any amount of time. Depends on how much you want, amount of money you are willing to spend, if you can spend it and all that jazz. My FI is friends with a couple that planned it in 6weeks, no joke! They wanted a small reception and both make quite a bit of money so it helped when pulling it together last minute.