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Is anyone do a bouquet toss? Or did you do a bouquet toss?

We were definetly NOT planning on doing the bouquet toss or a garter toss....but.....i was thinking and came up with a funky idea......

I was thinking of getting all my single/divorced/widowed girlfriends on the dance floor and having the florist make me a bouquet of 15 single stems, tied together with a single ribbon......then right before I do the big toss, I untie the ribbon and toss the bouquet.... all the single stems should hopeully scatter and allow each one to leave with a flower.....

Ok, am I over doing it now...?  Over fluff.....I love that term....! lol

Yes, NO, Maybe???

Re: Is anyone do a bouquet toss? Or did you do a bouquet toss?

  • edited December 2011
    If you untied the ribbon and just handed one to each- that would be adorable.  Tossing them would sort of make the women have to scramble for them-- not as dignified. 

    I didn't toss.
  • IAmLymeladyIAmLymelady member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that's a really cute idea; I think it would be kind of hard to make them fall so that you wouldn't have one person with 5, another with 3, a few people with 2, etc., but if you can work that out, I really like it.

  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    I will not toss a bouquet (did that the first time I married).  I will not have a garter anywhere near me (did not do that the first time, either).  I have no plans to gather women on the dance floor for ... whatever. 
  • edited December 2011
    Great idea!

    We're doing the toss, although I'd like to just give it to a window who'll be attendance.  I think it'd be more special...maybe I'll just order another bouqet for her...
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  • mybooboosmybooboos member
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    edited December 2011
    Not doing a garter or bouquet toss.  Most of my friends are married and the ones who aren't, are too old to scramble across the floor for a bouquet.
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  • edited December 2011
    Our wedding is a "semi" private event on a yatch.  I am doing a bouquet toss open to anyone who would like to participate.  ;)  I'll let you know how this works, or doesn't work, in a few weeks!
  • edited December 2011

    Like arv I am doing a bouquet toss for any of the ladies single or otherwise. No garter though.

  • edited December 2011
    Debi,

    I've seen this idea on the Martha Stewart Bride website.  It was 4-5 mini bouquets held together and then tossed.  The MS twist was that attached to each ribbon was a "fortune".... something corny like "you'll marry your HS sweetheart".  It was cute!
  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011

    We're NOT doing the garter or bouquet toss.  There is no reason to single any one out and embarass them - we didn't like it when it happened to us at my baby sister's wedding - although my familly thought it was great fun.

    We also of an age where our single friends and relatives are that way either by choice or circumstance and don't want to be reminded of it.

  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_did-anyone-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:bafd7010-a282-4459-b82d-644b0fa011ebPost:9fe7579d-a0f2-4404-af7c-91a3f252f772">Re: Is anyone do a bouquet toss? Or did you do a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We're NOT doing the garter or bouquet toss.  There is no reason to single any one out and embarass them - we didn't like it when it happened to us at my baby sister's wedding - although my familly thought it was great fun. We also of an age where our single friends and relatives are that way either by choice or circumstance and don't want to be reminded of it.
    Posted by MikesAngie[/QUOTE]

    I had no bouquet, but if I did, I would not have done a toss for the same reason as Angie.  Also I think someone else mentioned most at our reception were too old to be scrambling.  Didn't want to be responsible for broken bones. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />  Altho that makes it sound like we got married in a convelescent home.
  • edited December 2011
    No bouquet toss for me this time.  All of the women that will be there are married - except for one teenager.
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  • debi1941debi1941 member
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    edited December 2011

    Well,  thougt it was a cute idea, then with reading a lot of the resposes, maybe not so cute...especially at 45-55 yrs old....

    But I did love the Martha Stewart Idea....Arv66...  very cute!

    I also actually thought that perhaps right1thistime has a great idea, which is a little bit more "sophisticated" .........Thanks !

    I haven't really decided if it is a GO yet, as I had stated before, I originally had NO intention of doing either.....was just thinking of something different.....

    I haven't been to a wedding in years, but when I was single, I loved the bouquet and garter part of the weddings....some of the men were hysterical fetching the garter...

    A funny one : my girfriends daughter was just married about two yars ago and when her daughters husband fetched the garter, he came out with a baby doll....... it was hysteical !




  • edited December 2011
    I wasn't planning on doing one - not a fan of the times I've been summoned to the dance floor!

    BUT I really like the idea of giving a rose or single flower with a note attached to each of my friends that are still looking for the right partner. 

    I'm even thinking those flowers could be used as decorations before hand too... hmmm
  • debi1941debi1941 member
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    edited December 2011
    Shytownkelly

    right, I liked the idea also......

    see, thats why these boards are so very nice..the diamond in the ruff, goes thru the rock tumbler, a cutter, the polisher and emerges a brilliant gleaming gem


    thats our ideas.....they go in, get roughed around a bit and emerge  polished and ready to wear.....ll 
  • edited December 2011
    I'm definitely not doing this because (1) small wedding; (2) not enough room; (3) the only single man is an 84 year old widower; (4) only single women are under 12; 5) heard too many snarkey DJs doing the tosses. 

    I would also agree with the posts who don't see the reason to single out those who aren't paired off; I didn't like it when I was single and don't want to be a part of that tradition even if I had someone to toss the bouquet to. 
  • mswood1977mswood1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't toss because there where exactly 2 unmarried women at my wedding, so I didn't see the point in doing the toss.  I think if you want to do the toss then you should.
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  • AdelphiTNAdelphiTN member
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    edited December 2011
    Nope we completely skipped all that.... and just danced. :)
  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    This is why I love these boards, lots of responses for the mature bride!

    Our DJ does a "teddy bear toss", which I think we might do. It's just for the kids at the wedding, which will be my fiance's grandkids and niece/nephew's kids. There will be very few single women over 20 (our teenaged daughters don't count, we don't want them to catch ANYTHING, LOL) so between guys & gals, maybe 3-4 singles on each side. Not fun IMO as compared to weddings when we were all 20 somethings. I do like the idea of handing roses to the single gals, but what about the single guys? My son will be 24 at the time of the wedding, what do we hand the guys?
  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    We had two brides, two bouquets, and two garters.  Nothing got tossed.  And no one complained about the absence of tosses.

    One of the bouquets was given to my former sister-in-law, the only guest who was local to the area.  The other was given to the staff of the synagogue where we were married.

    We wore the garters as our "something blue," but did not toss them.  I resold mine after the wedding, and NotFroofy kept hers as a memento.
  • AbbeyS2011AbbeyS2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    I plan on doing a bouquet/garter toss - did not do either at my first wedding. 

    I plan on inviting all the ladies that want to participate in the toss, same with the men, no matter what their marital status, just for fun!
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  • melissamc2melissamc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    We did them both, and everyone got really into them.  It's all in how you sell it, not in the "tradition" itself.  We made it fun, instead of a chore for the single people.  My bouquet wound up in about four different pieces after the girls fought for it, and the guys were doing their own fair share of shoving to get the garter.

    I suppose I'm not the best to answer this, though, because I'm not a "participation ribbon" kind of person.  There's no thrill in winning if everyone gets something. ;)  You know your crowed, and yourself, far better than any of us could, though - if you think it's something they'd all enjoy and that YOU will enjoy doing - then go for it and have a good time with it. :)
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  • edited December 2011
    I didn't do a toss or the garter. We had an older crowd, but did have a table of 20 somethings. It just wasn't something I wanted to do at our wedding.
  • edited December 2011
    My florist makes a toss bouquet that splits into two.  I was thiniing about using her idea but just giving it to our mom's.  I know they will have their corsages, but might still work on something like this for them.  Any ideas?
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  • rosierealrosiereal member
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    edited December 2011
    wow great ideas ladies, my fi n i didnt wanna do the toss so we thought instead we ask all the married couples to the dance flower for a dance and start eliminating couple by the years they been married so who ever has been married the longest gets the bouquet. that way its different.
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  • sonomagalsonomagal member
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    edited December 2011
    OK - definitely not doing the garter toss.  Didn't do it last time 'cause I thought it was sexist.  Ain't doing it this time either.

    Now for the bouquet toss.  The first time I decided to give it to my Mom as a formal part of the reception.  Had almost no single friends and my Mom deserved it.

    This time....well....something odd.

    My fiance and his buddies are amateur rocketeers.  I told them it would be OK for them to lauch the bouquet using one of their rockets in a little field across the street.  When the bouquet reaches maximum altitude, a parachute will open and bring the flowers slowly back down to earth where anyone interested (and in range) can catch it.  They are also designing the rocket to spray rice.

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