Post Wedding- Kickin his buttta OUT!

Marrin713

We didn't sign anything either; the judge did.  But we're in Illinois; Cali seems like its different.

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]nabrighteyes - I would so do that after I got the keys to my truck... Any grace I would have felt toward him would have been quickly mitigated by his behavior.  <strong>But I'm mean like that - or is that self preservation?</strong> Suzie just know that we're all thinking of you as you and your children as you go through this.
Posted by MikesAngie[/QUOTE]

Sorry, have to jump in here.  It's self-preservation -- a very good thing!  We <u>all</u> need to put ourselves first more often.  Period.
 
And yes, Suzie, I am thinking of you, still sending hugs, prayers and good vibes your way. 

thealphabride

Suzie, can we have and update, how are you doing?  How can we help?

needle&thread

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[QUOTE] (ex wife drawing my income for child support ect).  Posted by suzieharris[/QUOTE]

My question is:  Why/How is his ex-wife drawing child support off your paycheck if you're not legally married?  You shouldn't be filing taxes together (please don't) !!!
Sugah...you need a lawyer---just go for the free consultation!!!  Go to legal aid in your town if you can't afford it. 

Thirty days?  I think not...since you've 'found him out' he could be a danger to you or your kids.  The male ego can get totally out of whack!! If you don't feel safe--go to your precinct and tell them--make sure they document it and get all the names and badge numbers of the officers you spoke with.  Give that information and your children to your closest family member--for the next 30 days!!! <font color="#ff6600"><strong> You could leave the premises and have all the utilities cut-off!!!</strong></font> (your reason would be that you couldn't afford them after he made you waste money on a bogus wedding--so you had to build your funds back up someway and your family took you in temporarily to help with your finances!!!)  Trust me he is there for comfort; no water, electric, heat or phone---he'd be gone in a few hours!!!

Take the rings back-get your money; <font color="#ff0000"><strong>sell the honeymoon--you're on the KNOT for heaven's sake</strong> </font>and have the reception and don't invite any of his family--just have a big shindig for you and your family and friends; oh, yeah...the photography would be instant family photographs--especially with all my elder family members!!!

Thank God there wasn't any further damage to yourself or your children!!! <font color="#800080"><strong> If you have his name on anything of value--PLEASE TAKE IT OFF!!!  (YOUR LIFE INSURANCE FOR INSTANCE!!!!)  Put everything in 'trust' to your children!!!

</strong></font>I wish you the best...sweetie...and <font color="#ff00ff"><strong>I <em><u>will</u></em> pray for you</strong></font>!!!<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />

S and CJ

Sue-n-Kevin

I was finally able to read the posts, and the advice directly above is perfect!

Take the emotion out of it, it's now a legal issue so legal advice is paramount. Use legal aid if you have to.

Shut off the utilities, move your children to a family member's or friend's house, get yourself out of there WITH the truck, and allow the legal matters to proceed.

If he trashes your home, take him to court. Your safety and sanity are more important that material possessions.

If he has big & strong family members, who you state are against him as well, enlist their assistance in removing him.

Best wishes Suzie, keep us posted.

LindseyS11

oh hun! I'm o sorry! just read your post! i have been there as well only to findout 6 months to a yr after and having him leave me while pregnant . i was only 23 at the time! some men dont understand the real meaning of a true relationship and commitment!  Take backwhat is yours and stand your ground! Men who are cheating will always deny what they have done. (i got the whole"shes sleeping on my floor cause of her home situation)! best of luck to you and your kids!!!! you will find love and happiness again! keep us posted and feel free to vent at anytime! positive thoughts and prayers for your family your way girl!