if you or FI are divorced...and/or have kids...?

gfam23

how long were you/FI divorced before your engagement?

how many kids do you have and their ages?

gfam23

me: divorced only 4-6 months (separated 2 years), FI: divorced 14 years
me: 1 5 year old daughter, him: 2 boys (16 and 19) and we are hoping for more together soon!

timsflower81

FI - divorced 6 years, but was separated a while before... 

Me - divorced for a year and a half before engagement...

FI has a 16 year old daughter that lives with her mom.... we get to see her on the weekends.  

AshDreamer

FI: Divorced 2 years
Me: Divorced almost 3


and I have a little 4-year-old boy who is my life! 

2dBride

I had been divorced for 13 years when I remarried.  And my children were 25 and 27.

NotFroofy had never been married before me.

dewingedpixie

Me Divorced 6 years with 1 9 year old daughter.
FI Divorced 3-4 years no kidlets

For medical reasons on my side there will probably be no more children.

handfast4me

My DH was never married prior to me.  I had been divorced over 3 years when we were handfasted.  I have a 26 year old, who is married, and I have a grandchild, 2 years old. 

boaznruth

Me - Divorced 4 years, 2 kids

Him - First marriage

I joke that I'm corrupting him.  

20pearls16

Me divorced 4 years 3kids 19,14,12
FI: divorced 9 months. Separated for years before that. 1 child age 5 my cutie pie.

Stormz

My situation is kinda of interesting.

I was only married 2 weeks before my ex started cheating and seperated 5 months later. We have been seperated over 3 years and will be finalized June 25th. I thought the divorce was final last year but ex pulled the divorce papers so I would keep him on my insurance and some other drama like that.

We have not announced our engagement but I am pretty certain our families know its coming.

megannie

We were both divorced in 2006. We got engaged Christmas Day, 2011.
I have three "children" aged 22, 20, and 17. He has no children.

Lisa50

I was divorced almost 12 years when I married H 11 months ago.  My son is 19.

H was divorced almost 4 years when we married.  He has a 34 y/o daughter (who has 4 kids, ages 2 - 17 yrs) and a 30 y/o son.

coopsbaby

Me- will have been divorced for about 2 years when we marry

   I have 3 kids, 20, 17 and 14

Him- never married, no kids

F&E050413

Me - I have been divorced for 14 months - separated 3 years before; 3 kids 13, 11, 6 yrs

FI - he is currently separated (have to be separated 365 days before divorce can befiled) with divorce being final in 6 months; no kids

jerzmom114

Me: Divorced for almost 7 years/ 2 children ages 9 and 10 (now married for 2 months


Husband: Divorced for 2 years (seperated for 4 long years before that) /one daugher, age 9

Ameriste

I had been separated not quite a year, he was divorced 15 years.  He has a few kids but only 2 are in his life (boy 8, girl 7), I have 2 boys from a previous marriage (10, 7), and we have a almost 2 y/o daughter together.

kidlets2

Me: Separated for 2 years before engagement, divorced for 2 months. I have 2 kids - 13 & 11

FI - divorced 3 years with 3 kids - 22, 16, 15

AbbeyS2011

Me - divorced a year when we got engaged, then had 3 year engagement.  Two boys, 8 and 11.

Him - divorced at least 5 years at engagement, one son, 30, and one daughter, 22.  H also has a granddaughter that is 1 yr. old.

Lizzieyounce

Me: Divorced 7 years, after a 2 year seperation. I have 2 daugters ages 17 and 12.

Him: never married and no children. He refers to his FSD's as "his girls". I am so blessed!

Meghannsix

I've been divorced for about 14 years, and have two kids, aged 18 and 11 (never married the second baby daddy).

He's never been married and has no kids, I am corrupting him as well!

RoseButtercup

me: divorced 11 months (separated for 9 months before that)
him: divorced 2 years

our combined family includes kids aged  2, 4, and 6.

squarepeg72

Fh - never married, no kids
Me - separated 2 yrs and divorcced for 1 year when we met. together 3 yrs when we get married at the end of the month. I have 3 kiddos, 2 girls (19 & 9) and 1 boy (14), He already claims them and calls them his daughters and son

InfinityWings

Me-Seperated/divorced 10 years. 2 kids, 12 and 16.
"Widowed" (we weren't legally married) for a little over 2 years, so 2 1/2 when we get married. Sailor's and my first date was almost a year after M's passing.

Sailor-never married, no kids.

minionlover

Me: divorce papers signed on valentine's day last year and was engaged 3 months later.

FI:  divorced for 4 months.

blumnkyfur

me : divorced since june of 2010.  My kids are 13, 12, 7, 4, and 2

him: divorced since valentines day 2011.  no kids.

toekneeray

Me: divorced 15 years, no children. FI: divorced 14 years, one 19-year old son, 1 17-year old daughter.

Leo379

Me divorced 1 1/2 years, separated 6 months before that, have a 32, 27, and 25 year old. FI, complicated, lol, 1st marriage, divorced about 6 years, no kids, second marriage, divorced about 8 years, two kids (his own), two step kids (which he counts as his), 3rd marriage, divorced about 2 years, 3 step kids, which he also counts as his. And they all still have relationships with him. Which says a lot about him. 1st wife had mental issues and was really young, he was in the Navy. Second wife cheated on him, he got custody of his kids and raised them. Third wife was not real loving. He is embarrassed about his "resume" as he calls it but is the most loving man. My high school sweetheart and the man I have loved all my life. After 38 years of never seeing each other or talking we are so lucky to have found each other!

adaisyandarose

Me: Seperated for 5 years, will be divorced at the end of this month, Wedding is August 3rd. I have 3 kids, 2 from the marriage, ages 16, 7, and 2 1/2.

Him: Was separated for a year, divorced in May, Adopted her daughter age 19, step daughter 18, and bio son 14.

So yes the ink will barely be dry on our divorce before we are married but our relationships were terminated before we ever met.

harjess

I have 3 kids he has 4 with 4 grandkids... ! I was divorced 3 years him gesh 2 years. I love this time around.
Mine: 17,9,5
His: 26, 25, 22, 19

jenny&will2014

Me: divorced 3 years 1 day exactly before engagement (lol); now 9 yr old son
FI: never married no kids

jenny&will2014

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[QUOTE]Me: Divorced 7 years, after a 2 year seperation. I have 2 daugters ages 17 and 12. Him: never married and no children. He refers to his FSD's as "his girls". I am so blessed!
Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]
That is so sweet! in the beginning of our relationship my FI said in a very snarky tone "i hope you know that i have no desire to be your sons father he already has one-even if hes a piece of poo!!"  i understood but was a little saddened thinking he would never get really close to him then. :(    well five yrs later they are like two peas in a pod and he told my mother that when he grows up he going to be just like his step dad :)
Then my fiance told me a few nights ago how much he wishes that he was my sons father bc of how awesome he is! melted my heart!