UGH!! I just need to vent about my FILs.
I got along pretty good with my FSIL and her husband when FI and I first started dating. Except for the fact that she would ask FI if we were "being good" every time she talked to him. Yes, she was asking about our sex life. I told FI that we absolutely would not discuss that with her. Well, things got worse after we decided to move in together. She went on her rant about starting a relationship in sin and that our relationship would not be graced by god because of this and we would be destined to fail. She even went so far as to send us both a sermon from her church that talked about the evil of getting divorced and sex before marriage. I tried to keep my mouth shut but I couldn't and told her (in the nicest way possible) that her actions were extremely inappropriate and that I was very hurt.
She then said she was "done" with us and even went as far as unfriending both of us on facebook.
That was 4 months ago... fast forward to this weekend...
FFIL asked FI if he would consider contacting his sister to try to get some sort of communication. Being the good son he is, FI sent her an email saying he missed talking to her, but that both of us were hurt and that we felt an apology was needed before communication could be reestablished. Well, FSIL never got to read the email because her husband got to it first and replied saying that he would not be sharing it with her because it would upset her! He also said they would never apologize for their actions and felt they were completely in the right with what they said and did.
I am so frustrated about this because I know it hurts my FI to not have a relationship with his sister. But I am also irritated that someone who is supposed to love and care about us would be so hurtful and childish and not even realize. FI is to the point of not even wanting to invite them to the wedding and it is still almost a year away! I am trying to let all of it go and not let it bug me and I think venting here will definitely help. Thanks for reading.