Small, medium or large. What type of wedding are you having?

RKwedding2011

What type of wedding are you having and why.  DO you ever get tempted to just elope?

I wanted to elope, but my fiance wanted a church wedding.  Together we decided to have a simple church wedding and recpetion and invite a medium amount of family and friends for a 50-100 person wedding.

I am making a lot of things for the wedding.  It is going to be at our small church.  The recpetion will also be at the church.  The wedding is at 1 and we are making the food. I want to introduce my family to my wonderful new husband.  I want to start our life out this way.  

At times I feel tempted to just elope.  Then I realize that we are doing a simple wedding and it will all be good.  My colors are yellow and red.  I've been having a lot of fun planning it.

What is your wedding going to be like?

Katie

ReidBreiling

We thought about eloping but deep down we want a real wedding so that is what we decided. Our wedding will probably be fairly large between the family and friends we have.

We are going to book our venue at Lake Arrowhead, California and have an outdoor ceremony on the lake. The reception will be held in the hotel since we will have an open bar and we dont want our guests driving home if they drink.

We are getting married May 19th, 2012 so we still have a lot of planning ahead of us.

IslandBeachBride

I'm eloping and so looking forward to it!  Neither one of us wanted church wedding; been there, done that.  We are sending out announcements and having an open house a few weeks after returning. 

iluvmy0341

We eloped and are having a vow renewal ceremony in July :-)
Ours is going to be simple: 50-80 people in my dad's backyard. It's more of a family reunion than anything. Both our families will be meeting eachother for the first time. It's going to be really laid back. Who can say they went fishing and had a bonfire on their wedding day?!

fireytiger

We wanted ALL of our closest family and friends there, so we invited a medium number of people (78 people invited in total). However, we know now that my entire family has declined with exception of my father and grandmother. FI's great aunt and uncle's house just had an electrical fire and was damaged, although thankfully not destroyed, so they may not be able to come. FI's uncle, whom he's closer to than anyone, has been having a great deal of health issues due to the abuse he's put his body through, so he's been having back to back surgeries to repair the damage. He probably won't come. So at this point we're estimating only about 30-35 people will be coming, so I guess we're having a pretty small wedding now.

RKwedding2011

Small weddings are great too! I like the idea of eloping and having the vow renewal later.

Katie

Sue-n-Kevin

It's my first wedding, my fiance's 3rd. Not sure which of the labels (small, medium, large) fit us, but I am including immediate family (first cousins, aunts, uncles, parents), and friends I've known for over 30 years, plus coworkers. Fiance has a larger family with 3 siblings and their families. Totaled up, about 100, and the max capacity for our venue is 100, but we know west coast family won't come.

I'm doing a lot of DIY, because I"m weird and like knowing I got what I wanted. I'm really getting excited about it, but have a lot to do, LOL.

mybooboos

It's a second wedding for both of us, but we both wanted a wedding.  It will be small (80 people invited), but with formal nuances.  I'm 2 months away, and getting very excited! 

lindaloulubbock

I guess ours is on the large side.  We invited about 170.  We are halfway through our reply period and I think we'll have between 140 and 150.

It's my 2nd wedding, but my FIs first, and we live closer to his family and friends, so they have a pretty good acceptance rate.

MikesAngie

We invited 110 - 53 showed up 60 total RSVP'd.  It was a formal wedding with 4 attendants per side.  Our wedding was our dream, and something we had waited a long time for.

rapunnzzll

We are having the ceremony and reception at a hotel, so those that want to party don't have to drive home.  Our rsvp due date is June 1st but thinking we will have about 110 people attend.  So I guess that puts us in the medium category.

Hays2be

Does 50ish put me in the small category?  We invited a bit more than 50, but knew ahead of time that we had six definate declines, plus, we were pretty sure of about eight more.

It's fairly casual.  We're using the patio of the restaurant we went to on our first date.  They set up and break down.  We supply any table decorations and cake (cupcakes) I have a dressbouquet and FI has a jacket, slacks and a bout.  I'm putting his son on shoe patrol so he doesn't show up in sneakers. 

And it's six weeks from today!!

mightyoakes

We were going to do a destination wedding. But then my FI shared that he really wanted to get married at his church - I agreed. At first I was feeling like I was goin along with his plan. Now, it really feels good. We are having about 100 - 120 people there and I think it will be great - not too big, not too small.

Sometimes it has to "come about" ...

2dBride

We kind of had to do a destination wedding, since we are a same-sex couple.  Massachusetts was the only state in which we could get married when we started our planning.  We decided to take advantage of that fact to have a tiny synagogue wedding (a dozen people), immediately followed by a luncheon at a nearby Legal Sea Foods.  Three days later, we had an at-home reception for 60 people back in Washington, DC.

ChampagnePunch

Our wedding will be fairly small. My first was what I thought was small (about 75 guests) but this time there will be about 50. I'm from CA but we live in NYC and are having our wedding here. Most of my West Coast relatives will not be coming, nor will my other relatives who live in Minnesota. FI's family is pretty small and bizarre drama will prevent some of them from coming. So the wedding guets will mainly be immediate family and very close friends. I definitely don't have the urge to invite "everyone I know" this time around. Plus, since we're paying for an NYC reception out of our own little pockets, the fewer people, the better the budget!

justlikestevie

I'm planning on a wedding of around 100 people but seems my Grandmother and my Mother are pushing for us to elope or to do our reception at our house.  I want to have a reception and a dance.  I've been so looking forward to dancing with my fiance all night long at our wedding reception.  He's a great dancer.  Today I'm talking to my Mom about reception halls and the costs that I've been quoted (which my fiance and I are going to pay for)  and she asks me why we couldn't have our reception at a local hotel that opens up into an atrium and just have a table set up in our room with food and refreshmnet and we can set up chairs in the atrium outside our room for our guests to hang out.  Are you kidding me?  I said "Can't really have a dance with that setup."  She says "Do you really think there will be anyone dancing?"  I said "Well, I WILL BE!"  She's acting like we're going way too far over the top for this wedding but what I want to say is "So, did you dance at your second wedding?"  She's been married twice and had a big wedding both times though it was a first time wedding for the groom both times.  I just feel like she's being a hypocrit or something.  It just makes me feel like she doesn't think our wedding is important and really brings me down. 

karenshopping

We'll have a small destination wedding. Our guestlist is seventysomwthing. I'm inviting all of my relatives. But I expect a very small fraction to accept the invitation. My fiancé wants to elope to Las Vegas with no guests. He's going along with the destination wedding because I want as many as possible of my relatives at our wedding. We're at an early stage of planning. We'll be married in front of a gazebo in the garden of an historic hotel on Mackinac Island in Michigan.

renjon7798

I must be the odd ball!  At first I wanted a small quiet wedding with just very VERY close family and our children.  But my FI started talking and he really wanted a big wedding he could be a part of.  With his first wedding, he had no say in anything and he hated everything about it.  My first wedding was planned by my mother, down to my wedding dress.  This wedding will be OUR wedding and just want we want.  As of right now, our guest list is slightly under 200, but will probably be closer to 225-250.  We are going big and formal, but it's what we both decided we wanted.

Congrats to everyone on here and I can't wait to see pictures!

hsbstone

At first we thought about a DW with just our family and closest friends, but having a church wedding was more important to us so we changed the wedding to his home town where most of his family still lives (we live in DC metro area). My family is very small (three kids, a grandson and DIL). Fi has a big family (6 siblings), plus spouses, plus nephews and nieces and their kids...just his immediate family is around 40 people!!! So I am having a medium wedding, but very sophisticated as refined as we want. With fewer people you can have an open bar, imported favors, special family gifts, and big farewell brunch with all the family and friends OOT attending, plus a little tour trip to the state capital just for fun!!

This is my third wedding (divorced and widow) and his second(widow), but this will be really the first that I have planned the way i wanted. And our most important target other than celebrating our union in Jesus, is to have each and every one of our guests having the time of their lives!!

RKwedding2011

  Justlikestevie, your mom sure isn't making this fun for you. If she had 2 big weddings, then she shouldn't have anything to say against yours.  Parents, they love us but can be difficult at times! I hope you do the wedding that YOU and FI want.  Go for what you want.  You will never be able to please anyone.  

  Since this is my second wedding, my family hasn't been too involved.  My mom lives in another state. My family is all supportive though. Our wedding is going to be super simple. I'm sure I'll get compliments and criticism.  You just can't please everyone!

Katie

feelslikeadream

Total of 70 including wedding party and guests.  I would say it is pretty much formal.  I am so excited and can't wait..it's next month!