This is my second wedding, my fiance's first. As expected, my family will not be throwing me a shower, however my fi's family INSISTS on throwing not one, not two, but three separate showers (one for his dad's side, one for his mom's side, and another by their friends). Being that it's my second wedding, I do not feel that I should be having a shower at all. I understand that it's his first wedding, but it puts me in a very awkward position. I don't need or want them to have to have a shower buying us gifts that we don't really need. I have all new kitchen stuff/etc from my first wedding still. I have explained my position on the subject many times (not trying to be ungrateful) with no avail. Does anyone have any suggestions? Is it typical to have showers for a second wedding? Do I stick to my guns and say thanks but no thanks? Or do I back down and just let them have the showers that they want to have? I'm really not trying to be ungrateful, but I just feel that it's TOTALLY unnecessary. Thanks!