Hello I'm New Here

RoseLove01

Hey everyone, I am Rose.

I just joined because I have a few questions that I need to ask.

My husband and I were married in July, and it was a quick Justice of the Peace wedding. There was no one there, and it was spur of the moment. 

We want to now have a large wedding so everyone can attend. Of course, in a year since we have to save up money.

A lot of our families do not know we're married.

I was looking into a few places for services for a wedding, and I was just wondering if anyone had any experiences with them.

I heard it was best to plan early if I wanted the services without fear of someone else booking prior to my wedding.

Any advice and such is helpful!

Here are the sites I found:

http://www.njweddingpros.com/

http://www.antoinetterose.com/

http://www.EnchantedCelebrations.com/

http://www.crystalgolfresort.com/WeddingsCatering/Weddings.aspx

Thanks everyone!!

thealphabride

Hi Rose,
These questions are better answered by your local knot board. Look for jersey in the city boards.
This is a national board and we are all over the country  so probably cannot answer unless there is a second timer from jersey here.
Good luck

right1thistime

And PLEASE - lurk on the boards (even your local) before you post.  Get a feel for the way people respond to questions.  Because -- you will NOT find a lot of sympathy for your situation.  Many posters have very strong feelings about hiding the fact (or if not hiding it - failing to disclose) that you are already married, and holding a sham wedding event.  IF you are going to do this, it should be up front labelled as a vow renewal, because that is what it is.  You get one wedding, and you two chose a quick JP event.  ~Donna

red1115

Congrats Rose & Welcome!

As stated before, you'll probably get more location specific feedback on the local board.  But rest assured if you've got a year to plan your party, you should be fine when booking a reception hall.

My suggestion is that you skip the expense of a vow renewal ceremony & just pour your efforts into having a great party - where you'll be able to celebrate with family & friends.

Good luck!

RoseLove01

You get more than one shot to get married, and no one will be mad about it? It was something we decided to do for personal reasons that I am guessing you will also find wrong. 

I will check in with the other boards. I was looking for ideas, and not judgement. Thanks everyone else for the help! 

MikesAngie

RoseLove just so that you understand we are the LEAST judgemental board you will find and the snarky comment about our weddings was totally childish and uncalled for. 

We didn't get married with a JOP  and lie to our families about it, and aren't planning a large wedding as though we're not married. In my humble opinion that is just wrong, lacks maturity and is selfish.  If nothing else you need to come clean with your families and have a vow renewal.

We are getting married again not to the same man (usually), and we're getting remarried (different than a vow renewal) because we believe in marriage and our weddings now are not gift grabs, but a celebration of the love we share with our partners.  We're either currently engaged or married and still here supporting one another.

Go to the other boards, the other brides who are not already married will let you know in no certain terms how they feel about what you're doing.  You will more than likely not find the support or help you are looking for because YOU ARE MARRIED already.

Lisa50

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_hello-im-new-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:d8685ee7-e92b-4ea4-b2b9-c1d673c6fa9fPost:17705917-ab3e-485b-8a26-7515112b44b4">Re: Hello I'm New Here</a>:
[QUOTE]There are good reasons to get married quickly...illness and the need for medical coverage, military deployment, one of you loses a lease and needs to move in...the list goes on. People will understand those reasons if you share them. If you keep it a secret, and it gets out, their reaction will be that you lied to them. They will wonder, regardless of your protests and the reasons that you offer, how many OTHER things you have lied about. Hiding things destroys trust.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Well put, RetreadBride.