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Changing my Name

I slowly but surely have changed my name. I eased into it. First the SS. Then waited a few months, then the Drivers Lic., Bank Accounts.

Then my employer, which was way easy. They took care of changing all the the paycheck, and all the tax stuff there. Our open enrollment was a month after we married so we signed up for all new bennies then. My name in email automatically changed, and I ordered new business cards.  I still have the same personal email in the old name. That is what everyone has for me so got to change that....

Now on to the mortgage, credit card and all the utilities.

My clients are adjusting better than I am. They understand I got married and my name changed. No problem.

I constantly intro myself to new prospects with the old last name.... then I catch myself .....and add the new last name. It sounds like I'm hyphonating, but that's not it. I'm adjusting. Slowly. Had this name for 15 years and now it's like changing your whole identity.again. is such a pain!!! 
 
I REALLY wanted to chuck the ex's name but it's such a pain in the arse. 

Since I'm in sales, I'm going to break myself of it by making 100 prospecting phone calls Monday intro myself by my new name. I love my new name and just have to get comfortable with saying it and not slipping.

Re: Changing my Name

  • fireytigerfireytiger member
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    edited December 2011
    Ugh, I hear you with that... I'm hoping it won't be too big of a hassle for me to stop using my ex's last name. I've had mine for almost 7 years now. Sometimes it reminds me of him but a lot of times it's easy to forget that it's not my "true" name.
  • edited December 2011
    Alphabride I am in the same situation. I am very attached to both my names my mom's Italian name that I love to death, or my English/American dad's. And I really hate having to spell FI German last name...well, I may have to do as you are doing...slowly, very slowly...(sigh)
  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011

    Changing everything is a pain, and I will be doing that this year.Laughing It's more changing my signature that I'm working on getting it to look artistic.  I have a very artistic signature especially with my maiden name (took that back as soon as I could).  So now it's making the FI's name work with my first name and middle initial.

  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    New last name is very common and easy so it's a welcome change from maiden name and xH's last name.  I did everything as soon as the official certificate came back from the county.  I spent countless hours at SS office.  I got new SS card in the mail very quickly and then did the rest (DMV, bank, library card) all in the same day.  I did however have to send certificate copies down to my mom's banks and accountants in Florida so they could change their records since I am on all my mom's financials.  And then, lo and behold, some woman with the exact same name as mine tries to cash a check on my mom's checking account!  That was a mess to unravel!
  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't change mine.  Either time. I am so happy I didn't!  Truthfully, I don't understand why women do, although my own daughter did--but she had my name and her dad's name (my first husband's) names hyphenated.  She moved my last name to her middle name, dropped her dad's name, and then uses her husband's name.  It's all about choice. 

    My first husband's was a French last name with a gazillion letters that were silent.  Second one also has a gazillion letters, is Ukrainian and ends in Z, for crying out loud. 

    Plus, now I'm published, I've been a performer, and my BIRTH name is very easy to spell and say. 
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  • fireytigerfireytiger member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm changing my name to FI's when we get married, although technically I guess it's a poor idea. His name is italian and it throws everyone off, because it has a "cch" in it, which is pronounced like a "k" instead of like "ch", so everyone says it wrong. lol But I LOVE his last name! So even though everyone for the rest of my life will be butchering my name, I still want it. :P The way I see it, my first name is Angelique and I constantly get people butchering THAT one, and even with my ex's simple name, I've STILL got people constantly mispronouncing it. So what's the difference of having a new name that nobody can say? lol
  • edited December 2011
    Like handfast4me, I didn't change my name when I married my first husband. That worked well. So when I marry my fiancé, I'm not changing my name (again).
  • edited December 2011
    If I had not changed my name the first time, I would have been less compelled to change it this time.  It mattered to DH, and I was either going to go back to my maiden name or take his, so either way I would have the hassle of changing it.  I took his name, since it made him happy.  ~Donna
  • hccpsuhccpsu member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't get married until I was 45, so I didn't want to change my name.  However, it was very important to my now-husband, so I agreed to do it.  I moved my maiden name to my middle name, and use both names professionally.  It was a hassle to change, but I'm slowly getting used to it, and now I even see a bit why it meant so much to him--I do feel more like a "family unit" with him than I probably would otherwise.
  • edited December 2011
    I wouldn't have changed my name the first time but I was going to have a child and for his sake I wanted everyone's name to be the same. When I divorced he was very young (2) so I wanted to keep our names the same.

    When I married this time, I had my ex husbands name. (For the last 16 years!)

    SOOOO it was either go back to my maiden name or change to my new husband's name .

    The logical solution for me was to change to the new hubby's... I wanted his name and mine to be the same.
  • tdqtdq
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    edited December 2011
    I've had my current last name for almost 19 years. Adjusting to it will be fun. I teach high school and my current last name is ripe for mockery and sexual innuendos. I can't really say I'll miss it, other than my kids share that name.
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  • edited December 2011
    I was so excited to change my name the first time around.  I was so young and impatient.  I feel kind of guilty that I didn't change it back to my maiden name after the divorce but I discussed it with FI and he was ok with it.  All the paperwork is a pain so I'm just waiting until we get married to take FI's last name and change everything then.  All things wedding related, where we have to use our names, I use my maiden name.
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  • edited December 2011
    I had to laugh at this post. I was married for 15 years (and I've been widowed for a year, but that's another story). Anyway, I didn't change my name when I got married, but after we'd been married about two years we moved to a military base (my dh was a DOD contractor, but unusual circumstances allowed us to live in base housing). Anyway, in the military, everything went under his identity: his name, his ssn, etc., so I just sort of became a Mrs. at that point. But for years, whenever I was upset about something, I reverted to my maiden name, and would get a lot of "Oh, so you're a newlywed?", to which I'd have to respond, "No, actually, I've been married for ten years" and feel like an idiot. Doncha know, with two teenage boys I'm upset a good portion of the time, and within the last 72 hours I identified myself by my maiden name (for the first time in many years, actually) to someone who had no connection to me back in the 90's before I was married and had no idea who I was when I identified myself!  Sheesh, I thought to myself ... it's never going to end!
  • edited December 2011
    the first time around, I was only 20 when I got married, changed my name, had four kids and stayed married for 18 years.  A couple years after the divorce, I changed back to my original name, and IT FELT SOOO GOOD, like getting my identity back!  This time, unless he wants to hyphenate our names, which would sound good, I'll keep my original.  an added funny thing is that his first wife and mother of his daughter has the same exact original name as me!  and now she keeps his last name.
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