Walking me down the aisle?

dm1976

This is my second wedding. Is it appropriate for my future step-son to walk me down the Aisle? I have a great relationship with my step father, but we are thinking about having my step-son walk me. Any thoughts?

nmauser82

I think that would be very sweet and totally acceptable.

allen31540

I don't profess to know about what would be the proper etiquette for this situation,  but I think it is lovely that you would want him to and that he would want to. 

As for your step-father, if I was him, I would not be hurt as I would see the importance of bonding with your future step-son. 

thealphabride

I think it's a lovely idea!

Sloane99

I think that's a really sweet way to do it. Anything goes as far as I'm concerned for the bride's entrance. Will your step-father be hurt that he's missing out on this though?

pamila51510

If it is something that you want and he is cool with then I say do it. My cousin walked me down the Aisle and my daughters gave me away!

Erin McCormack

I think it's a wonderful idea and it speaks volumes about your relationship with your future step son.  How important it will make him feel.  Wow! 

My oldest son (23) will be walking me down the isle and his response when I asked him was, Do I have to can't you get Timmy ( younger brother ) to do it?
So the compromise, Chris will walk me down the isle and Timmy will dance with me.  They just don't get it - BOYS! 

This is the great thing about second weddings, NO RULES !  We can do what makes us happy with no explanation to anyone. 

Good Luck

joannacolorado

Wow, I hate to be the dark cloud here but I don't agree.  Your step son is a young man and should have a role in the wedding but the down the aisle, in my opinion. is for the person who more or less raised you.  If that was your step-father, I think he would be honored to do this.  I think he will say it's fine if the step son does it but inside I think he would be hurt, at least a little.  I also think there is something to be said for keeping kids in their roles as kids/young adults and I also think regardless of what your step son tells you (speaking as a step chilld myself with a step father and now having my own step children) it is a difficult thing emotionally to have a parent remarry even if you are happy for them and love the new addition to the family. 

jcaruncho2010

I completely agree with Joanna. =(  I think maybe you should make your stepson a groomsmen? But if you DO have a great relationship with your stepfather, I think he should be the walking you down the aisle.  

AbbeyS2011

History tells us that many cultures pre-arranged marriages when the children were young,  the families entered into a legally binding contract, and the young man and woman were bethrothed.  The father escorting his daugher to her groom was his way of fulfilling his end of the agreement.  I have heard that fathers sometimes had to force their daughters to get married this way!

In today's society, women have walked down the aisle with fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters,children...etc.  Some women have opted to walk alone.

I think it is perfectly OK for you to ask your future stepson to walk with you. He can be listed as an escort in the program.

For my ceremony, my father will be my escort - he was not there for my 1st wedding, and if he cannot attend, then my oldest son will be my escort (he wil be 11 when we marry).

NJ Jen

These are second weddings. No one is giving away a virgin here - we are being escorted down the aisle.

My stepson offered to walk me down the aisle to his father. My husband was escorted by my daughters. It was about coming together as a new family. I loved it, stepson felt very important, and it was very well received by our guests. It was a very special memory for me that my guy wanted to do that for me.

Budifly

Absolutely fine.... I am about to have my second and last wedding and my 11 year old son and my 9 year old daughter are giving me away. My Dad gets on great with my fiance and he is one of his groomsmen.....I'm so excited...... Do what feels right to you.

jodinicoll

I agree with what many others have posted.  Do what you want, with second marriages I don't believe you have to follow tradition or "rules"  My oldest son is walking me down the isle and my daughter and granddaughter will be my only "bridesmaids"  My youngest son (age 15) is playing a song he will compose on the guitar that I will walk down the isle to.  Do what YOU want, it's your wedding/celebration of YOUR marriage.