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My 3rd wedding!

ngomanbrownngomanbrown
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This is my 3rd marriage and I'm a little embarrassed.  I'm 37 and have 2 beautiful children.  What are the rules?  My first wedding was in a church, but was a NIGHTMARE with a Momzilla and Monster-in-law planning the big day.

The 2nd was a quicky and I didn't tell anyone so that I might have some of a say in the day, and was even worse then the 1st.

I have FINALLY met my soul mate, the love of my life and I truly never knew what love was untill I met Marc!!!!! 

This is his 2nd, what do we do!!!!!!!!   I want a christian service in a church, with a truly traditional day.  I don't expect anyone to pay for anything other than Marc and I.  But what type of dress, flowers, dinner ect. is acceptable????
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    right1thistimeright1thistime member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper First Comment
    edited December 2011
    What is acceptable is for the two of you to plan the beautiful wedding, complete with the dress, flowers, dinner, venue, music, bells & whistles, etc that makes your hearts sing. 

    What is NOT acceptable is to let anyone tell you otherwise.  ~Donna
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    mmhepbmmhepb
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    edited December 2011
    I say it's your day and you money, so you can choose to wear, carry, decorate and serve what you want.  If you read back in the posts, this question has come up often.  The wise ladies that have been on these boards awhile will say to remember, it is your's and FI's first marriage together, and that's what matters.   
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    Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome to the boards!  Congratulations on your engagement.  I have just a couple of things to add to the above. 

    1.  Since you want a Christian service, you and your fiance should go talk to your minister.  He or she will be able to help guide you on preparation and on the ceremony itself. 
    2.  Set your budget. 
    3.  When feeling overwhelmed, pick up a copy of Real Simple Weddings magazine.  It has a pull-out planner and loads of tips for planning your celebration.
    4.  If you have not read this already, pick up a copy of The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams by Judith Sherven & James Sniechowski.  The subtitle is Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy.  Need I say more?

    Happy planning and good luck!
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    PhoenixMamaPhoenixMama
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    edited December 2011
    I totally agree with all the other wise ladies that have already posted.  This is my 3rd, FI's 1st.  But MOST IMPORTANT... our first together, and we are totally in love and I'm coming to grips with my past should not dim down having fun and making a totally awesome wedding for us.  :D

    Congrats and welcome to the lovely and supportive boards here.  :D
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    rapunnzzllrapunnzzll
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome and Congrats!  Decide what the two of you want and the wedding of your dreams will follow.
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    MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    The previous posters covered the bases - set your budget and plan the wedding of your dreams within that budget.
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    mybooboosmybooboos member
    First Anniversary First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I have no more to add, since the others have covered all the points, but I just wanted to say, Congrats on your engagement and welcome to the board!!
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    iluvmy0341iluvmy0341
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    edited December 2011
    Do whatever you want! It's your day--screw what anyone has to say. I've heard people say you shouldn't wear a white dress or a veil, but seriously?! It's not 1950! Plan your dream wedding within your budget and go with it
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    lindaloulubbocklindaloulubbock
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    edited December 2011
    Do what you want!  I second the idea of Real Simple Weddings--totally worth it (and it comes with 1 year subscription to Real Simple!). 


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    spiritedcharmspiritedcharm
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    edited December 2011
    Mine too - my third (his first)! I was feeling the same way as you until I started reading all the positive comments from the ladies on here. I'm so glad I got over it and started planning the wedding that my fiance and I want instead of the wedding that "some" people think we should have.
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    WTFdasmahcupcakeWTFdasmahcupcake member
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    edited December 2011
    Nothing more to add. Congratulations!!
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    RKwedding2011RKwedding2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    Congratulations! You can have your wedding anyway you want it! Have fun and do what you would love to do.

    One option that my pastor told me about is that we could get married at the end of a church service. Looking back, perhaps we should have chose that easy, spiritual route.  We are having a small 50-80 person wedding and reception at our church. We are not going over the top.  It won't be super expensive. We are doing exactly what we want. We want our wedding and marriage to be based on Christ.  Do what ever type of wedding you want.  Have fun with it! Planning is super fun.  3 is a charm and works out by the way!
    Katie
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