So, my BF has been acting strangely, in the "OMG I'm trying to keep the secret from you that I'm going to propose!" My best friend, who he has never met except by phone, is in on the deal.
We have talked about marriage a lot--we've been together almost 2 years, and I am happy and excited to be married to him in the future. But he seems disappointed that I am not really too excited about the whole wedding thing.
I know I want a killer dress, but other than that--meh. My first wedding was a small family only deal since my IL's were freaks-no wonder that never worked out. :-P
Anyway, I'm just not excited about the cost and hassle of planning and having a big, elaborate shindig. I want some family and friends to be there, and I want to share the day with them. His family is wonderful and I know they will welcome me with open arms. We are in our 30's and both of us have been married before. We know this is right for us.
My BF just seems disapppointed that I am not more excited about a big to-do. I keep thinking about the cost and expense, but also about things like my slightly crazy family--crowd control, if you know what I mean..
My BF and I live in another country from them, and they have never met him. He knows all about them and our strained relationships.
I almost feel as if they are a cloud hanging over this. I'm wondering about their reactions to another wedding, how they'll act, if they'll embarass me. I want to have a happy day. I COULD have a happy day with them there if they all decide to behave themselves. But the stress of wondering what they will be like could ruin that happy day.
Have any of you had to figure out how to wrangle difficult family members? How did you handle it?