Opinion Please!!

elke01

My husband and I got married last year on Oct.22nd. I was a lot heavier than what I wanted to be for our wedding. I would really like to do a marriage renewal ceremony this year. For a couple of reasons I have lost a significant amount of weight and as well as celebrate with our 2 closest friends are marriage again. We are thinking about going away and doing this. Do you think this is appropriate?

Marrin713

Vow renewal.  You 4 can go away for a nice weekend somewhere, but don't get another wedding dress or go through all the "bridey" type things -you are already married.  Unfortunately you didn't like how you looked on your wedding day but you don't get a do-over.  I hated both my outfits (one for ceremony and one for reception) but that's on me; I caved in to a willful mother.  Wish I could have a do-over <sigh>

MikesAngie

I agree with Marrin that it is a vow renewal.  

As many on this board can attest I hated my gown, and it wasn't the gown's fault it was prefectly beautiful after my seamstress got done altering it. It was the manufacturer and my contacts that made it a debacle.  Unfortunately by the time my wedding day arrived I didn't love my gown - but that didn't matter what mattered was at the end of the day is that my groom and I would be married.  

 

handfast4me

Oh my stars.  This is exactly what I was talking about in my post to cnorwood, below.
So, you want a do-over?  Really?  You will probably think this is harsh, but that's OK.  I'm the one on this board who will give it to you straight.  

First, I was about 15 pounds lighter on my wedding day, than I am right now, maybe I should have a do-over too.  Do you see how that sounds?  

Listen, you're married.  Not everything is perfect on ANYONE's Wedding day.  And I should know, I've had a couple, or three.  One was a Scottish Handfasting, which isn't recognized legally here, so I had to have another legal ceremony.  And then there was the ceremony to my first husband.  NONE of those three days went perfect.  But I'm married, and having a LIFE (not just a wedding) with my DH. 

And now, before you do the knee jerk reaction, let me get that out of the way.  We don't know you, and yes, you should pity our husbands, because we've all been divorced and/or widowed, and are married again.  We're bitter old hags. 

right1thistime

No, I don't

blush64

If you want to go away for your anniversary and renew your vows I don't see a problem. If you want to invite another couple, ok.

As everyone said, you can't do the wedding over, but you can have a nice anniversary. Don't do wedding type stuff, just get a nice dress (NOT a wedding dress) and renew the vows. It seems like it might be bit early since it's only been a year.

Trying to recreate a wedding would be odd but celebrating your anniversary with your husband and a couple close friends seems ok. Or were you looking to actually have a do-over wedding? (for a 1 year anniversary it just seems wrong)

EDIT You should look for info on renewing your vows because it's NOT a second wedding.

Lisa50

No.  I don't think its appropriate.  Just my opinion ....

lindaloulubbock

Whenever I read these things I'm always astounded that people want a do-over.  Weddings are hard work.  They're stressful.  Why do it again only one year later?

Celebrate your anniversary, renew your vows, but you are already married...no need to have another wedding just because you look a little different.

Sue-n-Kevin

I think what you are talking about is a "destination vow renewal" with a couple of close friends. Call it an "anniversary trip" with close friends and I don't think anyone would have a problem with it.

What does your husband think? What would your friends think? Our opinion doesn't matter, it's what they think that counts.

If you want to get a nice white sundress and have a trip to Florida for your anniversary and have your friends come along and have a nice anniversary dinner, that sounds fun and lovely. Go for it.

handfast4me

It may have been over the top, but unless you can give me a specific rule that I violated it isn't going to happen.   

Also, I've seen many folks here edit responses without saying the edited, which is not using basic netiquette. 

awayagain

Iggy85

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_opinion-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:e3ae108c-d744-4939-bcdb-5c10da86feb9Post:e8f7a42b-18dc-4f08-a8a8-fa7981cff2d7">Re: Opinion Please!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Moderator:  Handfast, that was over the top, and not cool.  Please edit your response.[/QUOTE]

I don't see how that was rude, IMHO. She asked for opinions, and that's what she got.

I don't see anything wrong with doing a vow renewal. If your DH and your friends are ok with it, then why not?