Ok here's the situation - I originally had asked my BF to be my MOH. She ended up going psycho/crazy and said incredibly rude things to me and my FI. I decided she is not going to be involved in the wedding. Now I have no MOH. I have asked 2 of my friends to be BM's but my FI is having a Best Man. He is asking 3 people to stand (1 is the best man). I only have 2 BM's. I am not particularly close to anyone else to ask them to be an MOH and not sure if I should ask one of the BM's to substitute as an MOH. Also I will still be a BM short if I do substitute. Any suggestions/help on what to do?
Part 2 of this question -
Since now I no longer have an MOH, who is going to throw a bridal shower? Since as far as I know the MOH is usually the one to do.that (There are also other things an MOH is supposed to do for a wedding and I don't know who is going to fill this role). Is it even customary to have a bridal shower for a 2nd wedding? I don't know the proper etiquette? It is still my FI's first marriage and think we should since he hasn't been married before.