POLL: Who is paying?

dwest2201

Just curious as to who is paying about how you feel about it. 

This is my second wedding (FI's first) and both of our parents have expressed interest in giving us money... we will be putting our own money into the weddign as well.

arv266

My FI and I are paying for our wedding and we feel great about it.  We're partners in all things, and it just feels right that we be partners in this as well. 

Frady2Be

We are paying for probably 80% of it, and my parents have given us money to cover my dress, hair, and cake.  Plus his parents and my parents are splitting the rehearsal dinner (which I didn't want the fuss of one but didn't feel right telling them no).

melissamc2

It is all us.

right1thistime

At the time we got married (4 years ago) the only living parent was my Mom, who required care and somtiemes financial assistance from us.  

As an aside - when I got married the first time, I paid for eveything as well.  My youngest brother was just entering college, and that was all my folks could handle.  When I say I paid, that's what I mean-- me , myself and I (not xH).  I shoulda seen the handwriting on the wall then <sigh>.  ~Donna

SueR13

We're paying 100% and that's okay. My parents are older at this point and aren't terribly involved in any of it. Yes, they will be there... but as guests.

They didn't want a rehearsal dinner, but they did want to go out to dinner with some of our out-of-town guests the night before. FI and I can't afford to host yet another dinner, and my parents, who wanted the dinner, didn't offer. So I invited all our out-of-town guests at their own expense. We'll find somewhere near the hotel that's not too expensive and that's what we'll do.

I did want to get the private room at the pizzeria near where I used to live, but that's too much driving for too many people.

hsbstone

FI and I are paying for the wedding in this side of the Atlantic and in Italy will be my mom's family; we wanted to pay for it, but my family doesn't even wanna talk about it, what's very gracious, once my parents are deceased and this is an initiative from my aunts and uncles! And they are being so generous!!!

2dBride

We paid for all of it.  Honestly, at the age of 56, I can't imagine asking my 80-year-old parents for money.

mswood1977

We paid for our wedding.  However, we where initally not going to have a wedding cake, just cup cakes, but DH's parents really wanted us to have a wedding cake so they bought us our wedding cake.  They also hosted/paid for the rehearsal dinner.

mma3

We are paying 100% of everything. 

msblumoo

We are paying 100% ourselves also. Have never entertained even the thought of having our elderly mothers or anyone else help. Our money, Our decisions!

Marrin713

100% us.

AdelphiTN

100% us, although the parents are each hosting some other type of before or after party. what can i say, we like parties!

suzieharris

FFIL is picking up $200.00 of the DJ and I am paying the rest. 

rapunnzzll

We are paying for ours.  FMIL has made many comments about wanting to know where the money is coming from and I just have to bite my tongue.  She knows we never excpected anything from them, but even after all of her comments she has asked us to invite several of their friends.  Fortunately FI can make light of her comments and said we should ask her to pay for the guests she wants to invite!  We will still pay for everyone.  We decided not to do a rehearsal dinner but plan to host a brunch at the hotel the following day for OOT guests, family and anyone else who would like to attend.

thealphabride

We are paying 100%. Initially I was paying 2/3 and him 1/3. But when he started seeing the costs he offered to pay for more. He has been very generous about helping.
 
I got ripped off on my gown (internet deal gone bad) and went way over budget on my gown, cause I had to buy a new one, (which cost twice as much as the internet gown) and I am struggling now, he saw that and offered more $$.
He's my prince, and this is one of the many reasons why.

The so called internet bridal gown provider has not sent my refund and has stopped communicating with us altogether. I shipped the gown back immediately, so now I have no gown from them and no money from them. 

Lisa50

My fiance and I are paying 100%.  It never dawned on me that anyone else would, could or should cover the costs other than us.  Of course, if I happen to buy a lottery ticket and win -- that's another story.  LOL!

melliott09

This is my 2nd, his 1st. We are still in planning stages, but we plan on paying 100%. I know my father will offer, possibly my mother. But his parent's are divorced (as are mine) and I know his side of the family doesn't have the money to offer up. But we are fine with that.