Who to invite??

jefftara7781

So, this is my second wedding but my finance's first.  I'm having a hard time trying to figure out who to invite. Do I invite all of my out of town family?  I don't expect any of them to come because the came out for my first wedding but at the same time I don't want to be rude and not invite them and have them feel left out.

Any suggestions??

handfast4me

Invite who you'd like to be there within the number of people you can afford to host.  If they can't make it, they'll let you know.  However, just because they went to your first wedding, doesn't mean they won't want to come to this one.   The two events have nothing in common except you. 

PrettyInPearls23

I had the same problem -- I totally don't expect my OOT family to take the time off work and burn vacation days to come to my second wedding. And, we're on a tight budget so I didn't want to invite them and "waste" that headcount that I could use on someone local that I know would come (if that makes sense).

I decided I'm going to invite my family anyway. I'll make it clear that I totally understand if they don't want to travel and I don't want them to feel obligated to come...but I'd still love to have them there!

Lisa50

We invited the friends and family with whom we wanted to share the day, regardless of where they live, allowing them to make the decision to "burn" vacation time.  It was fabulous to have almost all those we care about with us to celebrate.