suggestions...first time post on this board

sunlover07

So I finally said enough with reading the more traditional/local knot boards. I just don't want any of the traditional big wedding stuff this time around.

This is my second wedding- his first. He is 100% on board with having a small nontraditional wedding. 

My question is - Is it ok to have a dinner after the ceremony with no dj?

Is this common for second weddings?

Thank you! Sue

Sue-n-Kevin

Welcome Sue! (nice name, LOL)

If you read down the board, you'll see that this is pretty much the "no rules" board. Many brides are having smaller, or destinatin weddings, others are having full blown ceremonies & receptions.

Do what feels right to you and your fiance. That's the only rule.

Welcome again. Look forward to hearing your plans.

sunlover07

Thanks Sue- love your name too... : )

Thanks for the feedback. Small and simple is what I am thinking. 

 

handfast4me

yeah, the knot is definitely prejudiced against doing it your own way.  :-(  Look at offbeatbrides for additional ideas. 

sunlover07

thanks ladies!  

Marrin713

We're just having an IPod for background music.  Our reception or "celebration" as we're calling it is a cocktail party with heavy apps and cake and hosted bar.

sunlover07

Marrin-

What type of venue are you having your celebration at?

I am thinking a nice restaurant with private rooms..

jcaruncho2010

Sue, my fiance and I are both getting married for the second time, although this is my FIRST actual "wedding"...the first time I got married we went to the courthouse and then ate lunch at the olive garden.  LOL  Anyway, when we first started planning, we had a guest list of approximately 150 people and were doing the big wedding reception blow-out thing, until I panicked and told him that I didn't want to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars for that type of ceremony and that I wasn't comfortable with the planning aspect of it (I hate it, in other words), so I begged him to elope with me to Vegas and he refused.

So we compromised.  We're having our ceremony at a nearby, quaint but beautiful Christian Church, and then we're taking 70 of our closest family and friends to eat lunch at a restaurant in a really nice area.  I hired a florist to decorate the altar and the reception tables, and a photographer for wedding pictures and whatnot, but I'm skipping out on the whole DJ and elaborate wedding thing.  What I MAY do, since my wedding is in the morning, is go out with a group of friends later that same night for some dancing and fun.    

Just a thought! HTH

MikesAngie

Sue, welcome and congratulations!

The only "rule" is that you do what you and your FI want... That's it. 

We're having our dream wedding so it's the full formal meal deal - but this wedding was a long time coming...and something that we both thought wouldn't happen... and here we are planning for our day.

Look forward to hearing about your plans and such!  Remember to make it your day!

2dBride

You definitely don't need to have dancing at your reception.  Even at my first wedding, back in 1977, we did a meal with no dancing.  This time around, I had two receptions, one in MA immediately after the ceremony, and then an at-home reception in DC.  The one in MA was an intimate luncheon in the private dining room of Legal Sea Foods with no dancing.

The only "rule" is that you must perfect the Icy Stare of Death for anyone who tries to tell you how to run your own wedding.  ;-)

sunlover07

Wow!! What great ideas and suggestions. Thank you!! I am so frustrated when people give me the whole run down of florists, djs, photographers, country clubs, dress shops....grrr!!!! I learned a long time ago that that is NOT what matters in marriage!! 

So thank you thank you ladies!! I feel better and more relaxed about things.....

Can't wait to check in each day to read more of your great ideas on your posts....

Sue

Erin McCormack

Hi Sue, Welcome and congratulations!

  This is mine and FI second (last) wedding.  Although we both have already had the big traditional wedding the first time around, we wanted a smaller wedding, just with family and close friends.  We're still having a church ceremony and the reception at a local restaurant with reception hall and dj.  This time I'm doing alot of DIY decorations and I'm having a great time putting everything together. 

   As PP have said, it's your wedding, this is a about the love and commitment you have for each other and it should be celebrated.  My FI put it in simple terms, " I want to marry you, have a party and go on a honeymoon".  Simple as that!  So make it your own, do whatever pleases you and puts a smile on your face and at the end of it, you'll be married and living the rest of your life happily ever after.

   Good luck, have fun and enjoy the ride. We look forward to hearing all your plans.

Erin 

Marrin713

Sun - our celebration is at a local golf club.  They do alot of weddings, showers, anniversaries, and almost H golfs there alot.  Since ours will be just about 50 people, we are using the clubhouse/restaurant portion.  We don't have enough people for the BIG room.  So it's a little British Mens Clubby looking but it looks out over the golf course and we have use of the veranda and the patio as well.

Sloane99

Welcome Sue and congrats. We're not having dancing or traditional garter tosses, speeches at our wedding either, but that's not to say that it's not appropriate by any means just what we wanted.

I agree though, I certainly care much less about centerpieces this time around than I did at my first wedding. I cared more about the wedding in general then though and forgot about the whole marriage part. Lol

Lisa50

Welcome, Sue!

Your plans sound nice.  This IS the board for doing your own thing, no doubt.  No rules, just fun!

This will be my FI's third marriage and my second.  Our wedding will be in an historic inn with close family and friends in attendance.  Cocktails and dinner will follow a short and sweet ceremony officiated by my cousin, a recently ordained minister. Then, we will having dancing!  

Both of my FI's marriages began in a courthouse, mine in a Catholic church.  We're creating our own thing by breaking the molds we were constrained by before.  Yay!

deepcovejackie

Hi Sue and Welcome!  Your plans sound great.  I can't think of one reason to have a DJ when you don't want one.  Have fun planning.

thealphabride

Welcome to the board Sue. We are having a big celebration as I was married in the courthouse first time around.
We say to do what makes your heart sing. It's your celebration to make your own.  
Enjoy the planning!

AbbeyS2011

All of the above suggestions are great! 

My first wedding was in a barn in the middle of a cornfield in Iowa - thrown together in two days!

My FI's weddings were courthouse (he has been married twice)

This time - I am doing a church wedding with an awesome party afterwards.  Not sure yet if I will have a DJ or not - still sorting that out.

Have fun planning, and have it your way!