No Gifts

loriandedwin

Guess it doesn't matter now as we have cancelled the reception.

thealphabride

Hi Lori,
The previous poster is correct: it is a faux paux to put "no gifts" or any mention of gifts on your invites. Spread the word by mouth.

tenofcups4me

The standard etiquette answer is to not put anything on the invitation. But I would put it on the invitation anyway. Because if you tell me verbally that you don't want anything, I'm going to assume that you just think you need to say that and I'll get you a gift of some sort anyway. If it's on the invitation, I'll take you at your word and believe you.

belletop

Personally I wouldn't be offended if someone put on their invite "no gifts."

That being said I still wouldn't mention it on your invitations.  Just word of mouth as PPs have said.

George7211

Why would you say no gifts. If some one wants to give you a gift it is their choice. It may be cash $5.00-or $100 +. it could be a little gift from a craft fair or a new TV. I assume my guest are adults will do or not do what they can afford. and I leave that up to them. and yes I will display the chilli pepper lamp  some where even if its in the  playroom

ninibeans

Maybe request contributions to a good cause instead of gifts. On our wedding website we put "...While our wants are shamefully high, we honestly aren’t in need of anything and don’t have a gift registry. Instead, in lieu of gifts we ask for your kind gestures to go to the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation in tribute to our wedding..."

tenofcups4me

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:f73fd1b8-5f02-4490-961b-6a6cecf10fb4Post:2888dadd-63c5-405d-ae48-56d7b073c6c1">Re: No Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE] Just a suggestion....I didn't want/need gifts either, because I had a fully stocked house. I told everyone who asked about a registry to just please come.  Most folks, though, just won't attend a wedding without a gift. I ended up with a slew of random white elephants. Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I think that's a great illustration of my point that most people will not believe a bride who says she doesn't want gifts and they'll get you something anyway. Which is why I'd put it in writing on the invitation.

Marrin713

Wow, what happened Lori?

To tell you the truth, once H and I married at the courthouse, I was so content that I didn't really care if there was a reception or not.

Marrin713

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:f73fd1b8-5f02-4490-961b-6a6cecf10fb4Post:bb8cfa98-63fb-4dcf-aec2-3d07446a6a54">Re: No Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]We live 1 1/2 hours  away from each other, both our sons are graduating this year in our towns in June (so we have to keep them in their schools) and we both have jobs where we live.  I haven't been able to find a job closer to him.  So right now I am living here, he is living there.  And financially if I can't find a job closer to him, I can't afford to move.
Posted by loriandedwin[/QUOTE]

OK, help me out here cuz sometimes I can't see the forest for the trees.  Was your reception dependent upon you finding a job and moving closer to him?  I guess I just don't see a reason to skip the reception due to these circumstances.  You're all going to be together for the ceremony.  Like I said, can't see forest!  Your plans for ceremony and a dinner afterward sound great too.