Second Weddings

Groomsmen at loose!

So, Fi invited his brother to be his groomsman, and he told him that he is not sure if he will make part in the wedding party. He didn't say what could be the reason or if he would get back to FI on that.
The first FI' s wedding was all done in his house. His brother's wife made all arrangements.
As soon as his X forgot about it, she started a confusion between both brothers that made them not talk for over six years. Finally they worked things out and went back to talk again, but because they live in opposite coasts, they don't see each other for over 8 years. Ou wedding will be like a family reunion, and he told to FI that he will be attending, but anyting else other than that. I really don't know what to think, and we have to get our wedding party together to order the tuxedos that will take about two months to be delivered. I am bothered, but not hurt, but I have a feeling that FI is hurt and very sad. Any ideas how to try working things around without any drama or invading any personal space? I don't know him at all...

Re: Groomsmen at loose!

  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    I agree with RetreadBride, wait it out and see what happens.
  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    hbstone - I know that it's tough right now to see how this can work out, but it can.  Your FI's brother doesn't want to disappoint his brother by saying yes he will be a groomsman whem it may make his wife  uncomfortable.   Give it a little time he may come around and want to be in the wedding party. 

    I totally understand how you feel I had two bridesmaids that practically begged to be in the wedding party - drop out at 5 months out only to rejoin at 3 months out. 

    Give it some time, and if he comes around perfect if not he'll be an honored guest.
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks girls. I am more worried about FI's feelings than anything else. I am sure he is very disappointed because he wanted to invite his brother previously to be his Best Man and didn't do it, because I told him, we'd rather have someone that was friends or at least acquainted with both of us. That's the way I chose my BM.
    I am not taking on a personal level, but still think that's a very discomfort situation for FI.
    I think I will leave it alone for while and if FI's brother don't get back to him with an answer by middle of April, I will ask FI to choose another person and move on with this issue.
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