My step-mom is going to prove to be more than a challenge for my wedding plans so any knotties who have any thoughts or tips please respond, here's where she is going to be trouble:
1) She hates my mother though they have never met face to face. (My mom left my dad nearly 10 years ago you would think she would be over it as my own mom is)
2) She is a huge drama queen and I fear she may become a mom-zilla! At some point I know she'll find a way to get the spotlight taken off me and my future husband on the day. She's even mentioned that she prefers wearing white to formal occasions!
3) She manages to find a way to spoil the fun by dragging her own sorrows into conversation. An example would be if we were talking about my fiance's family she'll remind us in no uncertain fashion that she no longer has any as her dad is in a mental insitiution for Dementia and her mom died three years ago. Oh, and she never allowed me to meet either of them when they were healthy.
4) She doesn't see me as her daughter. She speaks to me in a tolerating tone pretty much all the time. Whenever something extra wonderful happens she either says I am lying (which is so childish) or she'll bring the spotlight onto herself again. When we broke the news to her and my dad we expected Dad to freak. Instead he burst into joyful tears and hugged us both, she merely remarked that we were too young for such things. I wasn't even invited to the wedding when she married my dad. They only had two other people there, their neighbours. That's right, their nieghbours. Every parent I have told this to has said my father should be ashamed. But I dont blame him, he's just crushing his own wishes to make her feel better.
I've just started planning and already I've come to my first hurdle with my fiance's family wishing to throw us a massive engagement party to let both sides get to know each other.
If anyone has been through a similar situation please let me know how you handled it!
Love from Scotland!
MissJ