I'm a 23 year old Louisiana girl who is MADLY in love with her Mississippi man, and finally after 4 years of dating WE ARE GETTING MARRIED! yay!
ok, so I have always held a very strong sense of respect for my mother and I have always done things to either impress or make her happy. She is older (63 year old) and VERY strict and stern and set in her conservative Baptist ways. That being said, she recently started crying when she opened my sisters fridge and found beer and wine, stating "I didn't raise you girls to associate with drunks." My mother has never had a drink in her life and confessed her deep disappointment in my sister and shame that she felt for being her mother. She said she is so against it that it would never be allowed in her house. All 3 of my sisters and my brother had church receptions immediately following the ceremony and no alcohol was served (They also had a budget of ONLY $2000 back in the early 90's)
ANYWAY, my problem is that FH and myself want to have wine and beer served at our reception for our guests that are coming in from out of town from college and my FH's hometown (since the wedding will be in mine, nearly 4 hours away). I only want to have a simple champagne toast, but my FH has expressed to me that the ONLY thing he cares about at the reception is if I'll be there as his wife and that his friends are happily drinking. I know that if he did not get beer and wine at the reception he would literally raise hell or skip out on pictures to go to the store himself to get some.
My parents are footing 100% of the bill for our wedding, and I'm very appreciative of that, but I'm afraid to piss my mom off and her be disappointed in me for having alcohol, that she would have to pay for. I want to make her happy, because I was raised a respectful southern belle, and we do not like to make our mommas mad. What do I do? I don't want to piss off my mom OR my future husband. I want to please him and his ONLY wish for the reception (after all it is HIS wedding too), but I don't want her to cry and be disappointed, because that would probably break my heart.
Advise PLEASE! I don't even know how to bring this up without getting upset myself or "breaking her heart"