Flower girl dress

expatmrs

My FI asked his cousin if her kids would like to be the flower girl and ring bearer. They loved the idea, so that's the plan for our September wedding. Recently, I was brainstorming what I wanted the flower girl to wear (she's 10 and I thought maybe a floral dress to coordinate, but not a cutesy white dress since she's a little older). However, I heard through the future in-law grapevine that my FI cousin had taken her daughter out and purchased her a bridesmaid dress! Apparently, she contacted my FSIL and got all the info of where to buy it. No one ever mentioned anything to me about that. Should I tell the flower girls mother that I had another idea for her dress? I just think it's pretty rude she never asked me what I thought about it. All my bridesmaids bought a different dress (same color and fabric), and now I'm worried a 10 year old girl is going to match one of them. Suggestions please!

Maggie0829

Have you seen the dress?  If not, then don't start freaking out until you do.

Yes, it was rude of them not to talk with you first but in the end will it really matter?

MairePoppy

The FG's mother should have discussed it with you, not your FSIL, before she bought the dress for her daughter. Let's assume she had good intentions. You should discuss the situation with her, before she gets ahead of you on the RB's outfit, too.

Please don't worry that a 10 year old girl is going to look identical to any of your adult bms, even if the dresses are the same. Hopefully her dress is an age appropriate child's version of the bms dresses. If it's not, you could call the store to see if the order can be cancelled. You could ask the mom to buy a dress of your choosing or offer to buy the fg a dress that you want her to wear.

Good luck.

bmiller1128

Does she know that you know she bought a dress already? You could always be like, hey are you free this weekend I want to look at dresses for your daughter.

 Otherwise I would just ask her to see it, she was probably just really excited for her daughter to be in your wedding and wanted to make it easier for you. If you don't like the dress just tell her you had something different in mind and maybe the 3 of you can all go together and find the perfect  one.

Muffin'sMom

Why don't you see what she got before you decide to freak out   Like someone said, when you add the flower girl "stuff" to it (little girl shoes, basket, flowers for her hair)...it won't look like the others.  I promise.

expatmrs

She does not know that I know about the dress. I actually just sent her a message kinda playing dumb about the whole thing. So we'll see what happens. I know she won't look like the bridesmaids - I just want to make sure the flower girl knows she is a flower girl and not a bridesmaid. FI family has a tendency to take something I say and turn it around to something that works better for them. I'm sure it will be fine though. Just a minor stress Thanks!