So I'm curious as to whether this is just me or this really seems inappropriate.
My fiance just told me he thought of the perfect gift to give his mother on our wedding day, to honor her for the 26 years she's cared for him. He's an only son, she's been divorced for 15 years and dedicated her life to her 2 children. So this is a big transition for her and that is hard for him in the sense that he's the man in her life and he's leaving the house - and he knows how difficult that is for her. And so his perfect gift to honor her? A ring.
He never anticipated this might seem ODD to me. That he gives his mom a ring on our wedding day. I told him that I would totally support whatever he decides to give her, but that I would prefer it be any other piece of jewelry etc except a ring because you give your WIFE a ring on the wedding day and it just feels incomfortable to me that you have another one for your mother.
I have a good relationship with her, we've never fought about her role in his life (we've been together 5 years so not too many surprises lurking) and she's not controlling or any of the typical scary MIL things (especially since it's a latino family and we live in Latin America...and some cultural stereotypes have just cause). And she's supportive of our relationship and encouraged him to get married. But when I softly expressed my discomfort that the gift be a ring, my fiance responded uncharastically emotionally that I am trying to compete with his mom and that I'm making this about me when it should be about her and honoring her, and I don't appreciate her, etc.. And that no other gift will work because she hates necklaces and bracelets, and earrings aren't meaningful, and he wants it to be something she wears always.
So is a ring a normal MOG gift? Is my discomfort dumb?