I was waiting for it, and it finally happened: Mom used the dreaded words, "Well, I"m the one paying for it!" We were discussing the guest list. Our venue only holds 350, we were hoping to keep it "small" at 250 (we both have large families, and kids are invited) and right now our list is at 340 (hoping and praying that our handful of single friends don't bring a "plus one"). My parents have generously offered to pay for the food for the wedding... his parents are not financially able to help, and we are paying for everything else. Does she still get to dictate who gets invited, and how many we invite?