Maid of Honor/Matron of Honor

latoyaowens1110

I have a really good friend that lives here in Texas with me, but my sister lives in another state.  I would like to make my friend the maid of honor bc she will be the one that helps with most of the planning and stress.  I was thinking of making my sister a bridesmaid, but my mom thinks I should have both a maid of honor and a matron of honor.  My thinks that I should make my sister maid of honor and my friend the matron of honor. I'm not sure what to do, especially since I will only have a total of two bridesmaids.

Kate61487

1)  MOH is not a badge for the best wedding helper, its a distinction for the person closest to you

2) if you can't decide it's okay to have two (but this should be because you're SO close to both, not because you want a helper and your mom will be mad).  However, if you only have 3 BMs total then having 2 MOHs and 1 BM is like a slap in the face to the one who didn't get 'promoted' - better not to pick one at all if that's the case.

3) Maid vs. Matron = Single vs. Married.  Whether you have one or two their title should correspond appropriately.

Grits8812

You can have two maids of honor.  Or you can call them both your bridesmaids.  It doesn't really make a difference honestly, they both aren't required to do anything but buy the dress and show up.  

RaptorSLH

[QUOTE]1)  MOH is not a badge for the best wedding helper, its a distinction for the person closest to you 
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

<div>This especially.  Maid/Matron of Honor is an <u>honor </u>position, not payment for services rendered.  Please take any book, magazine, or website that tells you otherwise with a grain of salt - the wedding industry is after your money, and really doesn't care what it does to your friendships along the way.</div>

latoyaowens1110

Thanks for all your advice! I think that whatever decision I make both my sister and my friend will be honored to be in my wedding.

kaitlyn&henry

Do not ask your sister to be MOH just because your mom wants you to. Ask who you feel closest with...if its both than ask both!

latoyaowens1110

To be clear, my mom is not a "momzilla" and she doesn't require me to do what she wants. She simply gives me advice when asked.  Again thanks for all of your helpful tips and advice.

Muffin'sMom

You can also call all three honor attendants....

Ashelton09

Both my sister and my mom who were recently married has a matron and a maid of honor! I think it just adds something to the wedding. But only do it because you want too, not because your mom wants you too.