What to do!

joanneP7

The wedding is a week away and your daughter is "dreading" it.  What to do!  I am at my wits end.

AutumnFair

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[QUOTE]The wedding is a week away and your daughter is "dreading" it.  What to do!  I am at my wits end.
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</div><div>I'm sorry but can you post more details. Who's wedding is it? Your daughter's? Yours?

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kmmssg

My DD was in her best friend's wedding last Fall.  Her poor BFF wasn't dreading the wedding day, but she was definitely over it.  She was tired of accomodating everyone else's guest list, being talked into things she really didn't want, etc.  They were minor things, but the list kept growing between the two mom's that she just threw her hands up and said let's get this over with. 

They wanted a small wedding but FIL was the town Doctor so half the town HAD to be invited.  FIL's paid for that, but it totally killed the small intimate wedding they really wanted.  Her mom had ideas about flowers and colors that weren't at all what the B & G had in mind.  There was a compromise, but it shouldn't have been necessary.

Have you asked your DD why she feels this way?

joanneP7

My DD says she never really wanted the BIG wediing.  Well, way back when we said decide what you want and let us know.  Would it had been our choice.  Most likely not, but we would have done whatever she wanted, as long as she was happy.  Well, she decided to stick with the big day as planned and we have been paying for it ever since.  Really now,  A WEEK AWAY!!!!

Keep in mind she has most definitely been part of all the planning along with her fiance.  So my feeling is like hers now...Let's get this over with.  How sad is that????

vicki0508

There's a big difference between "dreading" the wedding and just wanting it to be over with already.

Misheyld

So I completely agree there is certainly a difference between "dreading the wedding" and just getting it over with.   I'm one of those brides who is having a big wedding, but never wanted it.  Groom and Groom's family were really passionate about it.  Yes, it's going to be fun and now I've embraced it.  But I still have those moments (some longer than others) when I just want it over with and I don't doubt that sometime it comes off as "dreading."  It gets overwhelming with everything that needs to be done, and as much positive energy is around, there is a lot of negative that comes with it  too, as I can't please everyone.  I never in my wildest dreams expected wedding planning to be so demanding.  But like the PP said, those days that are so called "wedding free" days are key help me stay sane and remind me why I'm marrying him.

Muffin'sMom

Isn't it like that with everything?  High school, college, wedding, pregnant...at a certain point you JUST want it to get there so you can stop THINKING about it 

joanneP7

Thanks all...I have decided, I as the mom, will enjoy every bit of this week leading up to the Big Day.  I cannot control the feelings of others.  All I want is for my daughter to be happy, and I will give her all the support she needs just like I have been doing for the past 31 years.  Wish us luck!!!!!