Only left with one bridesmaid :(

cherisedb

I am getting married in April 2012.

I have a little dilema.

I originally asked my best friend if she would like to be my maid of honor. She responded that they are trying to get pregnant and are hoping to be 7 months pregnant by then, so they will try there best to be there but if they fall pregnant then they obviously cannot make it due to the fact they live overseas and unable to fly.

The i thought and asked my 2 x sister in laws if they would like to be my bridesmaids, they said YES. Now the one sister in law has fallen pregnant and is due the day before my wedding. She said she will probably not make it to the wedding but will do all the bridesmaids duties before the wedding. I am very happy for her but what if my best friend also falls pregnant within the next 2 months - then i am stuck with only 1 bridesmaid?

My fiance has 2 best man so won't it be uneven? Is it right then to ask someone else to step in as a bridesmaid or what do you suggest?

BinxRose

Ok first I just have to say..."fallen pregnant"? That sounds terrible. They are not ill, they are bringing new lives in the world. Well, I'm sorry that your friends may not make it to your wedding and stand up with you. Unfortunately, people can't put their lives on hold for us brides. One of my sisters found out she and her H are finally pregnant, and decided to step down from her BM role since she is due one week after my April 2012 wedding. While I'm disappointed she won't be standing next to me, I am so excited thay she's going to be a mommy! So now I have uneven sides, no big deal. If it's been more than a couple days since you asked your other BMs, then no, you can't ask someone else. They will know they are second string. How would you feel if someone asked you to be a BM after others couldn't fill the role? You're basically saying "you weren't good enough to be a BM before, but now I'm desperate." It's not a big deal if you have uneven sides. Your FI's guys can stand at the front with him, and your BM can walk down the aisle alone. Or one can be up front with him, and the other walks with your BM.

artbyallie

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[QUOTE]I am getting married in April 2012. I have a little dilema. I originally asked my best friend if she would like to be my maid of honor. She responded that they are trying to get pregnant and are hoping to be 7 months pregnant by then, so they will try there best to be there but if they fall pregnant then they obviously cannot make it due to the fact they live overseas and unable to fly. <div>
</div><div><strong>Realistically, it can take people months or even years to get pregnant. She would have to basically be pregnant right now but not far enough along for the positive test yet to be that far along in April. And people can fly at 7 months pg. My SIL did it. Not overseas, but still. Either she's a bit clueless about pregnancy or she's making excuses because she doesn't want to or can't afford to travel.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>The i thought and asked my 2 x sister in laws if they would like to be my bridesmaids, they said YES. Now the one sister in law has fallen pregnant and is due the day before my wedding. She said she will probably not make it to the wedding but will do all the bridesmaids duties before the wedding. I am very happy for her but what if my best friend also falls pregnant within the next 2 months - then i am stuck with only 1 bridesmaid? :( My fiance has 2 best man so won't it be uneven? Is it right then to ask someone else to step in as a bridesmaid or what do you suggest?
Posted by cherisedb[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Don't replace bridesmaids. It hurts feelings. Uneven sides are not the end of the world. The wedding police won't show up to call off your wedding. Be happy for your SIL (and your friend if she does get pregnant). Babies trump weddings.

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AdeleDazeem

 And people can fly at 7 months pg. My SIL did it. Not overseas, but still. Either she's a bit clueless about pregnancy or she's making excuses because she doesn't want to or can't afford to travel.



Actually, flying at 7 months is somewhat frowned upon depending on the pregnancy and the doctor.  My sister's bridesmaid flew from California to PA at 7 months.  Her doctor was very hesitant to agree.  It all worked out fine, but yeah - I can totally see living in another country, knowing it's a long flight, having a doctor who isn't totally sold on the idea, being pregnant with your first and saying "Yeah, no." 

Otherwise, OP - I know it's hard!  Uneven sides don't matter so don't worry about that.  All I can say is that - life happens!  If you only have one then you only have one on that day.  Once you walk down the aisle, it won't matter how many people are standing next to you.  Promise :-)

dvarney

No worries about having uneven sides, so many people do this now. When it is time to walk back down the aisle you can have both of the guys escort your bridesmaid on either side of her. This just happened at my brothers wedding he had 3 groomsmen while she had 2 of us bridesmaids and all went well, truthfully no one even noticed that there was anuneven number. All will be well as long as you and your man are standing up there together, after all that is really what the day is all about, the two of you celebrating your love.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]I am getting married in April 2012. I have a little dilema. I originally asked my best friend if she would like to be my maid of honor. She responded that they are trying to get pregnant and are hoping to be 7 months pregnant by then, so they will try there best to be there but if they fall pregnant then they obviously cannot make it due to the fact they live overseas and unable to fly. The i thought and asked my 2 x sister in laws if they would like to be my bridesmaids, they said YES. Now the one sister in law has fallen pregnant and is due the day before my wedding. She said she will probably not make it to the wedding but will do all the bridesmaids duties before the wedding. I am very happy for her but what if my best friend also falls pregnant within the next 2 months - <strong>then i am stuck with only 1 bridesmaid? :( My fiance has 2 best man so won't it be uneven</strong>? Is it right then to ask someone else to step in as a bridesmaid or what do you suggest?
Posted by cherisedb[/QUOTE]

Yes, two people and one person is uneven. But it doesn't matter. Your wedding will still be legal. Uneven wedding parties are perfectly acceptable.

kaitlyn&henry

having uneven sides is ok...i know a lot of people say they want them for pictures, but with a good photographer it really wont matter.

Only ask who you know will be there for you. Do NOT ask people just to make sides even because you will run into trouble...so many posts on this board are from jumping the gun on asking and then regret from asking the wrong people.

I know its disappointing if some of your best friends wont be there because they are pregnant...but as long as your groom is there you wont even notice! good luck

Karenofcourse

People can fall ill or fall over and stock markets and government can fall.  Women do not fall pregnant!  Be careful with your wording please!

A wedding party is not a sactioned sporting event.  Think of it like this: there is not a minimum number of bridesmaids or groomsmen required at the alter for the wedding to take place.  With that being said, you do not need replacements!!

MyUserName1

They can still be your bridesmaids!  List them in the program and make an announcement at the reception that they couldn't be present in person due their new addition but are present in spirit.  

Also, as previous posters have said, unless your friend gets pregnant RIGHTNOW, it might be a non issue!

sweetbird

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[QUOTE]<strong>People can fall ill or fall over and stock markets and government can fall.  Women do not fall pregnant!  Be careful with your wording please! </strong>A wedding party is not a sactioned sporting event.  Think of it like this: there is not a minimum number of bridesmaids or groomsmen required at the alter for the wedding to take place.  With that being said, you do not need replacements!!
Posted by Karenofcourse[/QUOTE]

I agree that it sounds wrong to say 'fall pregnant', <em>however</em>, in the UK (and maybe elsewhere, I don't know), this is what a lot of people say. I have lived in England for the past three years (grad school) and that is just mostly what people say here, that women 'fall pregnant', not 'get/become pregnant'. Yeah, it's kind of odd, but for some dialects of the English language it's the norm.

Karenofcourse

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Only left with one bridesmaid :( : I agree that it sounds wrong to say 'fall pregnant', however , in the UK (and maybe elsewhere, I don't know), this is what a lot of people say. I have lived in England for the past three years (grad school) and that is just mostly what people say here, that women 'fall pregnant', not 'get/become pregnant'. Yeah, it's kind of odd, but for some dialects of the English language it's the norm.
Posted by sweetbird[/QUOTE]

Thanks, sweetbird!  I learned something new today!!   :)

bd9h23

As someone who has been asked as a second teir bridesmaid once before, I can admit, it's not that big a deal.  My friend informed me that her sister in law was not going to be able to make it, and that she knew it was tacky to ask, but she wondered if I minded taking her place.

I guess my thinking is that I would rather be asked second teir then not at all!  I was honored she thought of me!  And I had a blast.

I think if your honest with a friend about the situation it could be OK.

Good Luck!