Hello ladies
Well I am venting in a way but here it goes. I have been engaged for a year now and I have been very excited to start planning my wedding. I am a full time student and working fulltime so I have very limited time to plan the wedding therefore I am doing the big things this summer. So I have been talking to my FMIL for about a year now about a wedding date and we agreed on 7-7-12.
For the past three months i have been looking for the venues to have my wedding and I found one that I fell in love with. I scheduled an appointment and I took my fiancée and mom to see the venue. He loved it and told me to book it. Before I took my FI and mom I had told my FMIL about the place and if she can come with us to view the place and how I wanted to have the wedding reception at this location. She told me she could not see it because she was packing for a cruise she was taking for the following week. When my FI talked to her she told us that we knew best. As a result we booked the venue and we were very happy about it. That is until we got a call her five minutes later.
She stared yelling at my FI about how expensive this place was and that if we were not going to listen to her "to go to hell" and not to call her and hanged up on me..... Ummm okay. This is the most inexpensive place I could find so I am lost on why she is making a big fuss. Well we did not call her back because she is being really unreasonable.
The next day she calls my FI and tells him how hurt she feels because I did not take her to the venue and that she did not want anything to do with the wedding. WTH??????
So I called her to see what was wrong. She said I did not treat her like a mother because if I respected her I would have taken her to see the venue first. In addition she said our relationship was over and how I was not taking her in consideration. WTH it is MY WEDDIND and I AM PAYING for it. I specifically refused to take any money from her because when FI brother got married she would constantly remind him that she was paying for the wedding and he had to do what she wanted. I did not want to fight with her so I politely refused the money.
Now she is calling everyone in his family and telling them how horrible I am because I am not getting her involved in the wedding. Now even if we get over all of these I do not want her to be involved in the wedding planning because it has only been 3 days since we booked the venue and we are already having major problems.
I feel like she is acting like we just got engaged weeks ago and booked the venue without telling her anything about the engagement. She is being very unreasonable and FI is on my side. What can I do about this whole situation? I feel really bad for my FI because he is in the middle of all of these and I want to resolve this. However I am not going to apologize to her because she went all nuts.
