So I am maid of honor in my best friends wedding. She is getting married in October of 2012. Her sister is getting married this September, and her mom is insisting on making her wedding as big as her sisters. However she at this point in time would rather elope. She is so sick of talking about the wedding that everytime I see her, or talk to her (we live 100 mi. away from eah other) she doesn't want to talk about the wedding at all. I have no idea how I'm going to help her, if she won't talk about it. Plus I don't even know the other bridesmaids to get their opinion on the matter. How am I supposed to plan a wedding shower and bachelorette party if she won't say anything more than red is her color?