Paying for Bachelorette Party

confusedbridesmaid11

I posted the other day about questions for a bachelorette party and got a good response. I am a BM in a wedding, pregnant and not attending the bachelorette party since it will be an all night drinking affair.  The bride knows and is fine with it. I am going to send some lingerie for the bride (we were asked to bring this on the invitation), but the more I think about it the more I think I should contribute some money too.  The other two bridesmaids live near each other and are close and planned the party, I am not close to them, but I still want to help out with the cost.  It will be a low key event, starting at a friends house for food and drinks (they are asking everyone to bring a food contribution) then off to some clubs for a night of drinking.
I was thinking about sending $50.00 to the MOH. 
Do you think that is a good amount?  I don't want to put the other two bridesmaids out just because I cannot attend. Thanks!!

MairePoppy

You are not obligated to send a contribution for the bp that you won't be attending. But if you want to do it, $50 is very generous. I'm sure the MOH will appreciate it.

map1005d1

That is very thoughtful and probably very appreciated. But not required. Every bachelorette party I have attended we have split the cost between those that could attend. But I am sure they would love you for helping out!

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]I posted the other day about questions for a bachelorette party and got a good response. I am a BM in a wedding, pregnant and not attending the bachelorette party since it will be an all night drinking affair.  The bride knows and is fine with it. I am going to send some lingerie for the bride (we were asked to bring this on the invitation), but the more I think about it the more I think I should contribute some money too.  The other two bridesmaids live near each other and are close and planned the party, I am not close to them, but I still want to help out with the cost.  It will be a low key event, starting at a friends house for food and drinks (they are asking everyone to bring a food contribution) then off to some clubs for a night of drinking. I was thinking about sending $50.00 to the MOH.  Do you think that is a good amount? <strong> I don't want to put the other two bridesmaids out just because I cannot attend</strong>. Thanks!!
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Honestly, based on what they have planned, it doesn't sound like they will be incurring any additional expense because you can't attend.    If anything, I'd probably only give $10 - $20 so they can buy the bride a drink on you, but other than that, I don't see how they are spending any more money than that.