Long story short, one of my bridesmaids has been awful during the entire planning process. Didnt come to my shower/bach party because of an excuse that I later found out she was lying about. She is also in another wedding (personal attendant) taking place the day after mine. She attended both the shower and bach party of the other girl.
She has been nothing but rude and very selfish during this whole thing, not helping with anything. She doesn't work, and I do, about 50 hrs a week. She always wants me to come to her (about an hour drive away) and right now, (my wedding is in 5 days) I simply dont have time. I also have a toddler at home that I dont get to see as much as I would like due to my hectic work schedule and planning this wedding.
We talked on the phone the other day and she told me she felt like I wasnt accomidating to her and that she felt it would be best to remove herself from the wedding. I was upset and said I had to go and hung up.
No call back. No apology. Nothing. So ... I printed my programs, after I took her name off.
She calls me yesterday, full of attitude, again no sorry, saying I should drive to see her this week (week before my wedding, mind you!) so we can hash things out in person. I feel like at this point, she should come to me. And at least freaking apologize...but nothing.
I couldnt take the stress so I just told her she said she didnt want to be involved so she's not.
Today I get a long email from her boyfriend, calling me all sorts of names, but mostly upset because apparently HE paid for her dress and shoes and he's pissed off that he invested money for nothing, and he blamed it all on me. I responded that SHE is the one who kicked herself out, so he should confront her about the money. I was shaking I was so angry. I felt like I was in middle school again. He called me all kinds of names, and just really showed what an ugly person he is. I'm so disgusted with this behavior. My fiance would have never ever emailed HER and said anything negative. I dont know why I had to get attacked.
I dont know what I'm looking for here, maybe a similar experience? I feel terrible to shut the door on a friendship Ive had since grade school but I think we've just changed. I'm trying to get this out of my head right now because I want to stay stress free before the big day but I am just still so upset about the whole thing. Who drops out of a wedding a week before?! Ugh!! Thanks for letting me vent....