This is not intended to sound like an episode of Jerry springer, but I am at a loss for words now on this all,and a little confused. A "close" friend of mine is getting married. We were friends in highschool, but lately the past year or so have just drifted apart. We see each other maybe once a month for a few glasses of wine and a chat. She's been a typical bride, but not necessarily an awful bridezilla. I have already bought my dress and several gifts for her shower, and loaned her some money to get her center pieces ordered and what not. However I am now considering dropping out of the wedding... She is having a rather large wedding, 500 person guest list. Of the seven bridesmaids, one seems to be a stick in the mud all the time. The dress and color was actually selected because this bridesmaid did not have the money for a dress, but had a dress from a previous wedding (so the bride arranged her color and dress around this girls dress). The other bridesmaid will occasionally spark random fights (IE-bridesmaid a said this about bridesmaid b). The problem is..she is making up these fights. They have no true base to them. She recently started some drama with the other maids because she disclosed both the bachelorette party and bridal shower details to the bride. (both were to be surprises). Normally..I would just bite my tongue and be cordial to her because the wedding is about the bride. However..there is the added stress of the bride. When her and her fiancé met, I guess he had at one time made a comment he found me attractive. Since then, my friend completely stopped inviting him out with our group of friends (if I was to be there) or vice versa. I would never. Ever. In a million years pursue a friends man. Well she has often accused me of pursuing him (I do not actually even talk to him. Last time I did was about a year before the engagement, when they accompanied my boyfriend and I out to dinner). The other night after helping her with addressing some invitations, her fiancé called her. He asked to speak to me, and proceeded to ask about her bachelorette party and whether or not someone had purchased a luggage gift set yet for the honeymoon(this part, he asked me to leave the room for because he did not want her to overhear his mother had already bought it for her and for me to make sure none of the maids bought a duplicate). The bride went livid. Throwing a tantrum and throwing things when I came back into the room. She then accused me of trying to steal her fiancé yet again. She has no basis for this..I've never broken her trust and have been in a relationship for several years myself. This episode, combined with the bridesmaid (whom I feel will use this to spread more false rumors) makes me not only feel uncomfortable but also a little hurt.. I guess what I am asking is... Is it wrong for me to drop out of the wedding now?(it takes place in late august). I have no intention of withdrawing any money I've given, but I do not feel comfortable attending the shower, or even the actual wedding at this point..more so just because of her unwarranted mistrust with me above other problems. If I do drop out, I plan to tell her in person..would it ruin the friendship? Is there any non hurtful way to drop out????