I have been a bridesmaid before for my sister’s and sister in law so I am not new to this. I know what to expect and what I should be doing. I have to ask if my friend is asking a lot. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding and I expected nothing of her other than to have the dress (it was 50.00) and show up to the rehearsal and wedding. She went above and came with me wedding gown shopping, helped with putting together homemade invites and helped throw my shower/bachelorette party with my sister in law and maid of honor and my husband’s cousins. That was super generous of her.
Her wedding is in Florida-we live in ND. It’s at a resort and very low key but super expensive. My husband and I are two of 40 guests. She has let me know that she doesn’t care what I wear as far as a dress goes and she basically just wants us to be there for her and her fiancé. Knowing this I am frustrated because she has asked me to be the one to host her bridal shower in ND (her sister is her maid of honor and lives in MN). This is a huge expense to take on alone but she has made it clear that no one else would be helping me. I have to mention we just moved into my husband’s parent’s house temporarily because he was laid off. Huge indicator that we DON’T have extra spending money.
Not only is the shower weighing on my shoulders but the tickets to FL right now are ranging between 500.00-600.00 a person and the beach house they want the bridal party to stay in is 170.00 a night.
I know I can step down as a bridesmaid because of the costs but I am afraid it may hurt her feelings because they asked us out to dinner to specifically see if we would be able to make a FL wedding. She said she would hate it if her best friend couldn’t be there. I felt put on the spot so I said we could make it work. Not sure how to move forward.